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Compassion for ones self

Wednesday, May 22, 2019

One of the things my therapist told me I need to focus on is having compassion for myself.

It's a great concept, everyone should have compassion for themselves. It should be a natural thing. Uhhh but it's not, at least not for me. I think I'm hard wired to get mad at myself for negative emotions.

I get mad when I'm feeling sad for no reason.
I get irritated when silly things make me cry... call myself dumb for that matter.
I feel guilty when I yell at my kids.
I feel ashamed that I'm not happy.

After I was told to have compassion for myself, I started referring to it as feeling sorry for myself. When I say it that way it sounds so negative. Everything that was ever taught to me goes against that.

Why is the simplest thing so hard to do??? I guess we can call this the cold hearted demond in me, that b1tch needs to be shot down!

Anyone else have this problem?
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  • ERIN1128
    I did a few months of counseling many years ago, and one of the things she said to me that really resonated was, "if your best friend was beating herself up like this, what would you say to her?" and of course I said, "I would tell her to lighten up and be kinder to herself" and she said, "okay, so why don't you do that for yourself?" It's really true, we're much nicer to other people than we are to ourselves. :-)
    148 days ago
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