Encouragement from an Ex-Fatguy
Thursday, July 18, 2019
Eating healthy and wanting to improve your lifestyle isn’t always easy. I’m sure if you’ve been doing it for a month, 6 months, even a year you know how hard it can be. It can seem hopeless, impossible at times. I’ve been there. I don’t think there is a single person who hasn’t felt that at one time or another. I dieted many times and failed. I thought I was doomed to be fat forever. That I was just one of those people who had bad genes and couldn’t lose weight. I felt that if I even looked at food I’d gain 3 lbs.
I had been overweight for most of my life, including childhood. When I was 3 or 4, my father started feeding me adult size portions of food and he’d yell at me and make me eat all of it even though if I was full. Naturally you have a larger appetite when being force fed, and so that trend of eating too much continued until I was 22. So I started off with a bad association with food and not knowing any better than to overeat. That was my normal...a bad eating habit. When I was 7 my father put me on a diet to do with him because he was overweight and he said I was too. I know what you’re thinking “Oh well that’s nice. Your father saw he needed to be healthy and wanted you to be too.” Except my father wasn’t the healthy type nor one to follow through on a diet. So now I have a learned bad eating habit and a bad connotation with dieting. Fast forward to when I started dieting on my own and I too never followed through because that was learned. I’d cave and break the diet and eat what I shouldn’t. So I was in, what seemed like, an endless cycle of dieting, and never getting anywhere with it. Never seeing any results. I had dieted for 7 years and never got anywhere. I’d lose one lb and gain two back. I almost lost hope. Though I should just give up.
See the problem was that I never really was serious about it. I wasn’t all in, no excuses. I’d make excuses and say ‘oh you ate healthy all week. It’s ok to have a cheat day.’ The truth was that I needed to eat right all the time if I wanted to see any results. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I finally woke up. At 22, I realized that I didn’t like the way I looked. What I saw in the mirror wasn’t what I saw myself as in my head. I felt skinny, but I wasn’t. I’ve always had this vision of me being skinny and fit...healthy.
That stayed with me and I never gave up on that dream. I’ve lost 225 pounds. That’s a whole other person. If you’ve read this far I’m sure you’re wondering why the backstory. “I thought you were talking about hope?” Well, to give you some insight. History. Sometimes when it seems like all is lost, that is the time to push the hardest..for victory is right around the corner. You see, It wasnt all for nothing. If you give up you’ll never know just how close you were to a breakthrough. There is light at the end of the tunnel even if you can’t see much.
So now that you’ve got a little history of my dieting past I hope I can give you some advice on what I’ve learned.
1. If you’re overweight and your goal for weight loss is a 30-day challenge.
Challenges are nice, but they’re not everything. They provide motivation, yes. However, don’t do you much good in the bigger picture.
2. Always have a long term goal.
If you’re driving, you’re either adventure driving, or lost. It would be good if you had a map so you know where you’re going. Same with losing weight. Got to know where you’re going if you want to get there. Set a long term goal and then use that 30 day challenge as a small goal. When that month is up challenge yourself to another 30 and another. Keep that goal to push yourself for the overall goal.
3. Never half a$$ two things, whole a$$ one thing.- Ron Swanson
Anything worth doing, is worth doing well. That ‘Anything worth doing’ is you. You are worth it! So why give anything but the best to yourself. Don’t halfway eat healthy, eat healthy.
4. It’s not a diet.
If you’re “dieting”, you’re wanting to lose 5lbs. Your diet is what you eat. So change what you eat. Make it your lifestyle.
5. The first thing to eating healthier is baby steps.
Don’t try to cut everything out at once. If you’re addicted to coca-cola, for instance, cut out all soda last. So take small steps and cut out the things that are bad that you could do without like chips and you’ll find that it gets easier to not eat as many potato chips. You won’t have that craving.
6. Look at what’s in your food.
I never really paid much attention to what was in my food before I was serious about losing weight. To my surprise I found there was a lot of junk in what I thought was healthy. A good rule of thumb is if it comes out of the ground it’s good to eat. So instead of getting shredded lettuce in a bag, grab the head of lettuce instead. Instead of sweet potatoes in a can, get the real one and bake it.
A lot can be done by just watching what you eat and how much. These are just a few things that I hope helped. You will get through this. You will succeed! Just keep going. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Loosing weight takes time and a lot of it. If you’re the type that likes a diet because it gives you a guide. Something to follow. Don’t give up on it. Stick with it and you’ll eventually see the fruits of your labors. You can’t set a time limit on losing weight.
Good luck! I know you can do it! If I can, you can!