Ohhhhhh, I am so glad that (at the suggestion of a Sparkie friend) I subscribed to Michael Neill's Monday Caffeine for the Soul emails. He offers so much -- a blog, a video, a podcast. And this week his theme is "work/life balance" , very timely for me.
Yes, this is my long Canadian Thanksgiving weekend. And yes, most of Saturday I was (in my head AND literally, physically) back at the office dealing with a couple fretful problems.
Yesterday (Sunday) was better. But, an email came in late day and . . . .
This morning I woke up already "back at the office" thinking about what I will need to do Tuesday.
Not present in the moment. Not at all. Work/life balance all outta whack.
Although candidly I believe there is no such thing as work/life balance. Just trying to be present in the work or present in the life as needed.
What the Michael Neill video is all about this week . . Riffing on an old Zen koan, he reminds us that before enlightenment, we chop wood and draw water. Often resentfully. Somebody else should be chopping the wood and drawing the water, why does it have to be me???? And looking forward to the moment when we can stop working and start living and NOT chopping wood or drawing water.
But what do we do after enlightenment? (As if enlightenment ever occurs, once and for all!!) .Yup. Chop wood and draw water!!
Even more useful to me is his podcast in which he introduces the concept of responsive proactivity.
Somebody asked me recently . . . are you really "disciplined" about intuitive eating? And I said no: I've had enough of discipline, enough of calorie counting both in and out, enough of yanking my leash, enough of efforting.
But if I ask myself about my innate tendency towards one or other end of the spectrum . . . proactivity, taking charge, getting 'er done versus responsive going with the flow, immersing myself in life and letting it live me: for sure I know where I've typically been positioned!!
However, says Michael Neill today: that's a false dichotomy. Excessive proactivity can be excessively controlling, fearful, feeling my thinking in the past or in the future. At the other extreme, simply "going with the flow", passively immersing ourselves in life can feel like drifting, stagnation, stuckness.
We can do both. We can go with the flow AND anticipate, proactively: grabbing new ideas as they come to us and getting ready in the moment . . . that integration perhaps the very best experience of creative flow that can come to us. Engendering that calm confidence in the present that no matter what comes we can cope, we can manage, we can even playfully explore it and enjoy it . . . .
Great stuff. And for today . . . . that's the place I want and I intend to be.