I really enjoyed SERENASEA's recent blog about acceptance and approval of our bodies.
We may find it difficult to accept the size our body is when we eat intuitively.
We may mourn the end of the myth that we can diet ourselves into a particular society-approved body shape and size.
(Although of course we NEVER believe it's possible to diet ourselves into a particular shoe size. Or eye colour!!)
The SERENASEA blog also offers a link to Deborah Raphael's resource materials: my mind my body.
And from there to the Intuitive Eating forum.
Approval. Why are we (particularly women) so focused on external approval?
Why do we buy clothes in a particular size that we've pre-decided is "our" size and then beat ourselves up when they don't fit and then try to diet aggressively until they DO fit?
Oh dear oh dear oh dear.
Because aggressive dieting does not result in physical health. It damages our metabolisms and results in an endless cycle of loss and regain. With ultimately higher body weight than the "set point" at which our individual bodies feel most comfortable. And then higher yet again . . .
Even worse: aggressive dieting is absolutely damaging to our mental health: our calm confidence, our ability to live IN the moment. To BElong in our own skins -- where we belong. And where we long to BE.
SERENASEA borrows some very specific strategies from Deborah Raphael for moving from externally-focused approval to inside-out acceptance.
OK, we mourn. What we are never going to be, regardless of our efforting and discipline. And the total diversion of our energies into an unreachable goal . . …
But we can move on. We can focus on appreciating all our bodies do for us: breathing and moving and experiencing, Miraculously.
We can replace negative thoughts about our bodies with neutral thoughts. And then perhaps -- how daring -- some positive thoughts?
And, most important of all, and because we are NOT just bodes presented and permanently on display for external approval, we can permit ourselves some positive thoughts about our essential character traits?
Who we really are?