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A Bright New Day

Wednesday, December 18, 2019

Have you ever noticed how a "slip"quickly becomes an avalanche? For me the slip today was a Drumstick ice cream cone belonging to my husband---which I stole. Does theft become indulgence and indulgence becomes permission and permission becomes more indulgence...a "devil may care" attitude. "I've already screwed up so what is one more thing?"

There is a way to break free of this destructive mindset. And it is important to put it in effect right away....(I'm preaching to myself here as well). That is to put a PERIOD on the sentence of our indulgence....to keep it as MOMENTS rather than hours, day, or week. It was a momentary aberration. A brief lapse. This keeps it from attaining gargantuan power. It limits it to one action hopefully to only one food... of course the first thing we need to do is to recognize and label our peccadillo what it was. We have to see that we stumbled and realize we have done something that we truly didn't want to do.

The next thing to do is to PREACH to oneself that it was a deviation from our desired path and immediately put a PERIOD on the sentence. Understand that with that very last bite our "sin" had come to an end and we are now blessed with a fresh start. A new beginning. We do not have to berate ourselves, call ourselves names, or struggle with the inevitability of yet another and another cheat. It is over. Done. Time to move on and to finish our day successfully.

One thing that I have heard here on Spark is that when you eat one "bad" thing or your break your program in any way...like you go a day or two without working out, you can name it and then put it behind you by doing TWO positive actions. Maybe an extra set of an exercise. Maybe by cooking a healthy meal and dividing it into portions and freezing some of for future healthy meals. Maybe by drinking some extra water. Blogging...encouraging a friend....writing in your journal. There are many, many ways to get back on track...be creative and let yourself feel some excitement about your choice of "affirmative actions" and then take joy in the newness of the moment.

i want to clarify something. If we have sinned against God or man, this method WILL NOT WORK. You cannot work your way out of sin. Only the forgiveness that the cross of Jesus offers us will work. You need Grace---not effort.

However if you have eaten something you shouldn't - i don't believe that is really sin. It is an error and not a path you want to take but nowhere in the Bible does it say "thou shalt not eat chocolate." It DOES warn about gluttony, however...and if that is your struggle you might need to deal with it as sin.

It's not easy, as it can be hard to rein oneself in and slow the force of acceleration and put the brakes on an appetite gone wild. But I do think that when we are swallowed by dismay and hopelessness and helplessness in the face of an unfortunate ill-advised choice, the things I've suggested here will help. They have helped me in the past....and I am in need of them tonight.

It's a bright new day.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    I like what I learned from Judith Beck’s book.
    She said the moment you see something you start an internal dialog. Have it. Don’t have it. The dialog creates stress giving us more reasons to have it. The longer the dialog the greater the chance you will yield. We use Permission giving thoughts allow ourselves to rationalize what we eat. It’s okay because.... They end with an excuse..I really want it ... It won’t matter.

    The sooner you stop the dialog the quicker you stop the added stress.

    Best option. Say no and walk away.
    Don’t give yourself permission to eat it.

    If you can’t do that, try maybe but not for the next 15 min.
    In that 15 min. Ask What’s more important?
    If I eat it, I’ll get momentary pleasure, but afterwards I’ll feel.......
    Then decide but know it’s a decision.

    276 days ago
    Hang in there girl🤗. One little hiccup doesn't make a sour stomach. Turn the page and start fresh. Don't dwell on what you did, focus on what you're going to do.🤗. Have a blessed day 🙏 😇
    277 days ago
  • LOF7203
    Thanks for sharing
    277 days ago
    you have what you need to suceed - its all there!
    277 days ago
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