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Alzheimer's is UGLY!

Wednesday, February 05, 2020

I am the primary caregiver for my mother-in-law who was "officially" diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2017. I say officially because there were many things that happened way before the diagnosis that led us to this conclusion. For anyone who has ever had to deal with someone with this horrible disease, my heart goes out to you because there isn't any easy solution to making things better.

My mother-in-law is in the moderate stage. It was very difficult to convince her to give up her house and move into what we thought was an assisted care facility but now we know that it's classified as independent living. I see her declining more and more each day and it's very sad. We need to move her into another facility that will provide more assistance but she doesn't want to. I had everything set up to move her nearly two years ago but once she found out that her dogs couldn't go, she threw a fit just like a toddler and we ended up letting her stay to keep peace. We finally convinced her that she couldn't take care of the dogs and they have been re-homed. She only mentioned them a couple of times so it wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be. We had all of the carpet replaced and cleaned her apartment back in November. That lasted no more than a few days. She just keeps throwing stuff on the floor and making huge messes. We go back and cleaned everything again and it's no time that she has it a mess again. I know it's part of the disease but it's so frustrating.

It's to the point that we are going to have to just let her be mad and get her moved into another facility. It's just very expensive and so hard to do. She's having trouble making full sentences and forgets in the middle of what she was saying. It's such a horrible disease and I hope that a cure can be found soon! For anyone who has had to deal with a loved one, you understand how difficult this is on e not only the patient but everyone around the person. My prayers are with you!
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    I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. My mother had dementia before she passed away. I don't know what I would have done if it had gone on for many years. As it was, it tore our family apart. My heart goes out to you. I wish you and your MIL and the whole family grace and strength to get through each day.
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    120 days ago
    Working in Nursing Homes for many years I just want to say that they are well informing on the move, and if it is a good facility they will help get her settled, as they work with Alzheimer residents every day. I don't know about Assisted Living so much, and it will means another move in the future. There are great Nursing Homes that do a great job. And yes, MIL before she passed was starting to show the symptoms of that dreaded disease and us living the closes were the one she called, even while she was is assisted living, one time it was a 3 am, wanting him to come in help her move the dining room table as she was having company coming for Sunday dinner, and it was Wednesday and no company coming, and she didn't even have her table anymore. And she got really angry at hubby that he wouldn't drop every thing and help her, and he tried and tried to calm her down, ended up calling the facility and telling them what was going on, and they said yes, they had heard her yell at someone on the phone, and was on the way down to comfort her. Went in to see her later in the morning and she had no recollection of calling so we just dropped it. To them it is so real, for that moment.
    120 days ago
    Alzheimer's is an ugly disease. I can't even imagine what your MIL is dealing with in her mind, as well as what you are dealing with as the caregiver. I ditto what you said, I hope there is a cure found SOON! emoticon
    121 days ago
    I care for my husband with dementia..it is very devastating disease..and so difficult for the caregiver..my prayers go out to you..there is no easy answers.
    121 days ago

    Keep on Keeping on!

    Make today the greatest day of your life!
    Until tomorrow!

    “People with goals succeed because they know where they are going.”
    ~ Earl Nightingale
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