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Sunday, February 23, 2020

"I cannot change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."

"Maybe I don't even like cheese! Maybe I'm lactose intolerant and prefer a nice quinoa muffin. Did you ever think about that?!"

Supportive Spouse:
 It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were  younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation. 

When I got laid off from my consulting job and took  "early retirement" in January, it became necessary for  Nancy to get a full-time job both for extra  income and  for health insurance benefits that we need. She was a  trained medical transcriptionist when we met  twenty-eight years ago and was fortunate to land a job  at a local transcription house.  It was shortly after she started working at this job  that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work. Although she  knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that  she has to rest for half an hour or so before she  starts supper. I try not to yell at her when this happens. Instead, I tell her to take her time. I  understand that she is not as young as she used to be.  I just tell her to wake me when she finally does get  supper on the table.   She used to wash and dry the dishes as soon as we  finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit  on the table for several hours after supper. I do  what I can by reminding her several times each evening  that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she  appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them  done before she goes to bed.

 Our washer and dryer are in the basement. When she was younger, Nancy used to be able to go up and down  the stairs all day and not get tired. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly.   Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of  this.   As long as she finishes up the laundry the next  evening I am willing to overlook it. Not only  that,  but unless I need something ironed to wear to the  Monday's lodge meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's  golf game or to Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling or  something like that, I will tell her to wait until the  next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a  little more time to do some of those odds and ends like shampooing the dog, vacuuming, or dusting.   Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this  allows her to gut and scale the fish at a more  leisurely pace. Nancy is starting to complain a   little occasionally. Not often, mind you, but  just  enough for me to notice. For example, she will say  that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of  her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement.  I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I  also remind her that missing lunch completely now and  then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean. 

When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs  more rest periods than she used to have to take. A couple of weeks ago she said she had to take a break  when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I overlook comments like these because I realize it's just age talking. In fact, I try to not embarrass her  when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I  tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of  freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I  tell her that as long as she is making one for  herself, she may as well make one for me and take her  break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I  fall asleep.  I could go on and on, but I think you know where I'm coming from. I know that I probably look like a saint  the way I support Nancy on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows  better than I do how frustrating women can become as  they get older. My purpose in writing this is simply  to suggest that you make the effort. I realize that achieving the exemplary level of showing consideration I have attained is out of reach for the average man. However guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.

  P.S.  His funeral was on Saturday. She was acquitted .


It's Play Tennis Day! First played in Birmingham, England, around 1859-1865, tennis has its origins in a French game of the 12th century, jeu de paume (game of the palm) where the player lobs the ball from his palm. The game has been through many variations over the centuries, often because of royalty.
--Curling is Cool Day: that odd-looking ice sport actually has a rich history and lots of facts; one of the oldest team sports, curling uses heavy granite stones of 44 lbs. to slide down the ice on a small rectangle of ice towards the targets which are 4 concentric circles; the game started in Scotland during the 1500's on ponds and lakes.
--Diesel Engine Day: today commemorates when in 1893, Rudolf Diesel received the patent for the diesel engine which burns fuel oil, not gasoline, and has compressed air in the cylinders instead of a spark.
--International Dog Biscuit Appreciation Day: aka Dog Biscuit Day; we walked the dog yesterday, so today is about the treat/reward; in 1907, American inventor Carleton Ellis created the bone-shape concept--apparently shape does matter to the dogs--and the treat evolved further till, in 1915, it was manufactured as Milk-Bones; you can google the history if you want more, but I felt it was kind of like sausage, you might not want to know.
--Iwo Jima Day: today is a second celebration associated with the Battle of Iwo Jima; the battle began on February 19, 1945 when the Marines landed on Iwo Jima to seize the island from the Japanese fighters; on February 23, 1945, the Marines captured Mt. Suribachi on the south side of the island and raised the American flag, caught on the famous photos; the battle would rage for another 4 weeks plus as the Marines fight to capture the northern side of the island.
--National Banana Bread Day: we don't need to say much about a great way to use up over-ripe bananas; banana bread has been called quick bread and came to the US in the 1870's.
--National Rationalization Day: do you give yourself excuses for when you're doing one thing and should be doing another, such as on the computer when you should be making dinner?; that's rationalization and this is your day to feel free to rationalize all you want.
--National Tile Day: not a lot of info, so I suspect this one was started by the industry; a day to appreciate the sturdy tile we use in our homes for its sustainability and durability.
--World Understanding and Peace Day: an annual observation by the Rotary club for ways to contribute to world peace.
--In 1836, the Battle of the Alamo began when Mexican general Santa Ana lead 1,500 men in a siege against US colonel William Travis' much smaller Texian force garrisoned behind the walls of the Alamo Mission. The 13-day siege will end in death for all the Texians and inspire calls for vengeance in what will prove a turning point in the Texas Revolution.
--In 1954, Pittsburgh elementary school students are the first group to receive Dr. Jonas Salk's new polio vaccine. The disease that for centuries has paralyzed and killed millions will be almost eradicated by the end of the 20th century.
--In 1455, the Gutenberg Bible was produced using Johannes Gutenberg's invention, the moveable type printing press. Forty-eight copies of the original pressing will survive to the 21st century, and be sought after as immensely valuable collectibles.
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