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Sunday Night Blues

Sunday, March 01, 2020

I am educator by trade. The only thing worse than Sunday night panic is the last day of Summer vacation. But here I sit with a different kind of Sunday Night blues. Tomorrow my DH goes in for surgery that will have him out of commission for 8 weeks. I love him to death but he is NOT a good patient. He will only be in the hospital for 1 night but than the true patience will be tested. So how might this be Spark-related? When he is home by himself all day, I feel guilty about leaving to go for a walk or going to the gym when I get off work. I know he would never say that he didn’t want me to go, but there is always something he was thinking about during the day that needs to be done or discussed. My husband is a career tradesman. He is not afraid to work and does some very physically demanding work. He does not like to sit still or stay sedentary. While his patience is being challenged, I will be tempted to fall back into my unhealthy habits. I hope I have the skills to rise above this.
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    do your thing, give him tasks that he can do while sitting
    231 days ago
    Are there any men that are good patients? Perhaps you can do some workouts to video/YouTube at home and some free weights? It might also be a good opportunity for you to clean out closets or start on spring cleaning. You would be home if he needed anything and still not sit around 'watching over him' constantly. When my DH had his heart surgery, I felt the same way. I would go out only to do grocery shopping and even then made it really quick and while he was napping. Any other time, I would go out to walk only in the yard area and do only 15-20 minutes at a time. I was worried about him. I also did my workouts at home using videos. That kept me where I felt I needed to be just in case.

    Don't forget to take care of yourself. If you let yourself slip, you won't be around to help anyone. As much as he may need you, you are his number 1 - be your number 1 too.

    Good luck.
    232 days ago
  • 257MAGGIE
    Good Luck staying with your program while also helping someone after surgery. Sounds like a real challenge and you will need some exercise for stress relief. Take some time for yourself!
    232 days ago
    You can do this - you have a plan of taking a walk or going to the gym. Maybe you can check in with him for 3 minutes after work and before you hit the trail. Then a longer talk at home.
    232 days ago
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