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I Need a Force Field

Sunday, March 08, 2020

Things have been a bit stressful. Some is caused by me or my perceptions of things and other caused by externals.
The externals are work of course and a little at home around some home improvements.

I only go into the office two days a week now having been kicked out of my cube because I only went in three days. Company rule: you have to come into the building 4 days a week to maintain a cube. The two days can be stressful because I try to have most of my meetings on those days as I like to be face to face with people, and because the other "hobos" as I call them, come into the office the same day. I know that on those days I will be too drawn and tired to cook so I've been planning for it - so we went out on Wednesday.......... and then Thursday was worse and we went out again.

Not good.

While my eating was good both days and my choices at the restaurant were good, the scale didn't like it and I am up a bit from earlier in the week.

So I am on damage control. There really is no need to rework my plan, I just need to work on deflecting the stress.

Short of getting a force field, I have been thinking about how to turn the external forces away (in a nice way). There's one situation that could come up this week that I already have a plan for so I am ready! emoticon

Other than that the internal stress was caused by me regarding dealing with my uncle's DIL about his house. She doesn't always clue me into things and starts down a path then has a problem and mentions it to me. Yesterday we went to his house to clean. She originally said she wasn't taking anything, which made me so sad. She was going to hire someone "to take everything away." I said you should have an estate sale and at least get some money (as it needs it) and as he'd like, give others the opportunity to enjoy things that brought them enjoyment. I was happy to see that she was packing up some things for my god-daughter to have in her new apartment and for her son to have later on. That alleviated some of my stress.

I talked to a friend that grew up in the neighborhood and he might be interested in buying the house. That would be so awesome. He would rent it out as he lives close by.

Today we are going to ask my uncle if he wants to go to his house to get anything he wants to keep and we'll store it at our house. That's going to be tough and stressful for all of us but we'll get through it. After that he'll come over for dinner and hopefully the rest of the time will be peaceful and stress free for all of us.

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  • RUTHE_51
    Diane, You have such a sweet heart for your elderly relatives. That's probably why there's extra stress. If you didn't care, you wouldn't care. I also admire you for having a plan for dealing with the work/eat issues. I always have an idea but not a plan. I need to work on that!
    124 days ago
    I had to clean out my parents’ house last summer with my sister and it was tough! We had an estate sale and when some things sold it made me so sad, but you can’t keep everything. It was a relief and sad at the same time when the house sold. Hang in there, it will get better.
    124 days ago
    It would be nice if your company would do away with coming in at all while the Covid-19 virus is expanding rapidly. I always take a hit with salt when I eat away from home.

    Dealing with the home situation you are in is always stressful. I hope your uncle does want to keep some things. You are a good niece to help out. Sending a hug and a prayer.
    125 days ago
    I'm recovering from a concussion & have cognitive therapy weekly at MGH. I'll try & post a blog about dealing with external interference & how we are in control. Really opened my eyes!
    125 days ago
    I have tried to live with the motto, I don’t stress over the things I have no control over. And try to remember that I can only control my attitude toward things. It’s not always easy for me...& by no way am I perfect, but it helps me regain my momentum when I falter. The hardest thing in life is to let go...let go the Illusion of control...because I know, most times, I have none. I know I don’t control people, place, or things. My issues go way back when I felt out of control in situations & got caught up in wishful thinking & wanting things to be different. I paid the price with endless worrying & fear. None of which changed a darn thing. And made me a worried mess.

    I pray you find your peace... emoticon
    126 days ago
    Dealing with relatives is always “fun”.
    Don’t let her get to you
    126 days ago
    Wishing you the best today for a peaceful and productive visit. You deserve it!
    126 days ago
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