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Wednesday, May 27, 2020

Hello Sparkers,

Well, I guess I just need to get something out - and say my peace. I tend to have a passive personality (Enneagram type 9), so sometimes I just keep my mouth shut - to my own detriment.

I was really disappointed and sad about something that happened here on Spark People. I am the team leader for the 40-something's with 10-24 lbs to lose. At one point I had 3 other co-leaders, but I am now the sole leader for the team.

I don't know exactly what happened, but one of my co-leaders said that I purposely removed them from being a co-leader.

I truly don't know how they were removed as co-leader - but I never, ever removed anyone from being a co-leader of the team.

I don't believe I even have the powers to remove someone as a leader or co-leader of a team? Don't you have to remove yourself?

Has anyone else run into this? I am honestly wondering if there is a sort of bug on the Spark People platform, or if something else happened.

It hurts to be wrongfully accused. It hurts that my co-leaders left without even addressing any of this with me. I sent out an email asking, "Where did you go?" - and that's when I found out they thought I had removed them.

I guess I just want to be heard and to say - this is not true and this is unfair to say that I would intentionally remove anyone from being a co-leader :-( I was really enjoying our little team and having a lot of fun making some new friendships.

In the end, I'm just happy to keep sparking. I'm happy to be a part of this community in whatever way that I can. I plan to contact Spark People support so maybe they can help me find out what happened.

I want my co-leaders to know that I would never intentionally do that - and I wish they had contacted me to find out what happened before jumping to conclusions :-(

That's all. There ... I've spoken my truth.

I hope you all have a wonderful day and most of all ... Keep Sparking!

With love and light, Vespa from the 40-somethings with 10-24 lbs to lose.
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  • OOLALA53
    I don't like that kind of feeling, either. I don't know if you feel it's too late to address this, but did you ask on the team leader team how it might have happened? If you get a good answer, you could send a link to it to the former leader.

    You didn't ask for this kind of suggestion, but it seems you could invite the other leaders back, letting them know you never wanted them to leave. Then it is up to them how to respond, but if you make a good-faith offer, you can rest in the confidence of your own heartfelt intentions. We can never dictate how others take our offers nor interpret our actions. If they don't want to forgive, that is their choice- and their burden.

    132 days ago
    Thank you, Simply Jae and Nancy Pat! It helps to know that you have noticed a few quirks as well. I will be sure to work with Spark People and see if I can figure out what happened. Thank you!
    155 days ago
    If the co leaders are inactive,,you then have the ability to delete them as leaders..most people don't in case they come back,,,that being said there is some weird things happen with teams..if you know that you did not do anything wrong..all you can do and apologize and offer them to come back..the ball is in their court..
    156 days ago
    SparkPeople seems to have a lot of weird quirks. I get deleted regularly from all my mail. I have to repost my food sometimes and often have to correctly answer about 5 questions to get credit for 3. I just roll with the punches since despite the idiosyncrasies of is still my favorite site. Hope you get it straightened out!
    156 days ago
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