I really appreciated the wisdom of DOVES EYE's comment on that resilience blog yesterday! She wrote:
"Resilience has only come in the last decade for me, in working on my weight it exposed my thoughts and feelings about myself. Was I the person others said I was or not?
I was more of a soft boiled egg :) easily crushed :)
The thoughts, motivation to lose weight, to exercise, to think about why came when it was for me ... not to please or do it for an occasion.
I was worth it for me and my family :) "
For me too, working on weight issues --- and in particular moving away from the tracking and calorie counting mind set to a more intuitive approach -- has been very helpful in identifying my own innate resilience.
Again from the Michael Neill/Cathy Casey conversation, "Creativity on Demand": it's not the quick, frantic, buzzing mind full of thoughts which is the source of creativity. Sure, creative accomplishments may occur: but more in spite of rather than because of such thinking!!
It's the quiet mind, when we slow down, which is the source of "wisdom" -- not "wisdom" in some elevated intellectual kinda way, just that sense of "Yeah, I knew that, I knew it all along".
We just know.
Simple stuff, self-evident stuff. Easy stuff. That we can relax into. Learn to trust.
And for me, that's included knowing what to eat, when to eat, how much to eat, when to stop eating.
All part of self-care.
Because when we don't take care of ourselves, we're drawing from an empty well when it comes to taking care of others.
To mix my metaphors (and metaphors are always the loosest form of logic, but often for all that the most persuasive . . . ):
I've been reading summer salad recipes that call for soft boiled eggs: sometimes referred to as "jammy eggs"! And although I haven't tried any just yet . . . they do look so bright and pretty against the dark green salad leaves!! I'm not really wanting to be "hard boiled" anyhow, ya know!!
And, ya know -- egg shells are really outstanding in "compressive" strength . . .