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Why Is It So Hard to Ask for What We Need or Want? (My Soap Box)

Thursday, July 16, 2020

This thought came to me when I observed Billie. Whenever she wants a treat, she jumps in my office chair. She has learned that to get her off without having to pick her up, a Pupperoni does the trick every time. She has learned to communicate what she wants. She has trained me well.

When she wants her dinner or to go outside, she jumps on my lap.

As humans, sometimes we see this as a weakness in our relationships. The other person SHOULD know what I want. Honesty in a relationship requires honesty in owning our wants and desires. Sometimes I believe that we think we don't deserve to want or need anything.

I deserve to be healthy and need to speak up about what I need to do to get there. I have a right to ask the people that I am in relationship to help me in my goal. If they do not, then I have the right to do what I need to do to take care of me. There may be consequences in that decision that may have an impact on my relationships. That doesn't mean I don't hold them in my heart. But if I don't love myself well, how can I love others?

Having been through that, I am grateful for the people that are in my life that are supportive and wants me to be the best I can be--spiritually, physically and mentally. And I want that for them as well.

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    Excellent thought and Billie i is a lovely dog!
    70 days ago
    Yeah, this makes a whole lot of sense!

    Of course, I am sitting here eating a salad made of greens and salmon. I first gave some salmon and salmon juice to the cats. But Doughnut Hole gobbled his down and then came and kept pestering me to give him mine as well. No go!

    Pets don't always get what they want, and neither do people. But I agree that we could take a hint from them about clearly stating what we need or want. A lot of failed marriages would have worked but for this problem of not communicating.

    Oh, and I just set the remnants of my salad bowl down for Doughnut Hole to lick. emoticon

    Hmmmmmm. I just realized I have admitted to breaking one of the cardinal rules of Sparkdom: Don't eat while you are working on the computer! emoticon
    70 days ago
    I'll need to think a while on this subject.
    70 days ago
    I think you're making a great start. Good communication is essential!
    70 days ago
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