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7/5/20 3:47 P

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Kathy,vi can not count the number of times I have had a UTI without symptoms that have been found with a urine test. I guess we have high thresholds so that we do not feel them.
My grandkids did poppers and sparklers and we were able to sit out on the front deck and watch neighbors shoot off fireworks. I am guessing that they will continue for at least a week more.
I pray that your blood count continues to improve. You must feel like a pin cushion by now.

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Pat, we are truly sisters!! Though I've had multiple UTI's, they don't present with symptoms. I'm not sure if that's good or bad; it's just the way it is.

Pat, Kelley, and Stella stopped in yesterday morning for a while. Nolan was with Teresa. Stella had some smoke bombs that she set off and some poppers that were mostly duds. Kelley's folks generally have some pretty big fireworks, so that's where they headed from here. Pat will be back today to mow, and I'll pick up Stella and Nolan tomorrow after my bloodwork.

I noticed on the portal for the doctor's office that my appointment previously scheduled before my chemo on the 22nd has not been changed to a week later. I'm wondering if that's to monitor my white count, although they could just do that with a blood test. Maybe it's just an oversight on their part.

Pat, I bet Jim was pretty happy about seeing the grandkids.

Prema, sorry Hock has to leave--even for a short time. Has your former landlord thrown more accusations your way? Does he have any credibility at all?? Do you have any contact with Moskito?

Above all, stay safe, my Kakak-kakak.
Kathy

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Prema, it sounds like you and Hock have it all figured out. It is so much easier this time around.
Your DG of health is a wise person and I can foresee your country being free of the infection sooner than most countries.
I did in fact have a UTI with no symptoms. Crazy, huh? The antibiotics are for 10 days. I have found comfortable positions and have been using home remedies to help with the stones. I have been drinking 12 glasses of water and after the first three days, I have been getting in 10,000+ steps a day.
Michelle invited us over for a cookout yesterday and I was able to see all 4 grandkids. This was Jim’s first full family outing since Christmas.

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7/5/20 7:54 A

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Happy 4th of July to my sisters.

I was really happy to see Hock and vice-versa....and it was a great opportunity for him to see my routine, and for both of us to assess how best to be together and still live our lives the way we both desired for our happiness as individuals and as a couple. It's a situation that's different from each of our past - right now we have no obligations to anyone, including our children. Feels good.....

We have not opened up our borders to tourists except for returning Malaysians. Our DG of Health has recommended that we need to be free of COVID-19 for at least 28 days and we need to regulate visitors to Malaysia. We can only allow those from countries that are also free of COVID-19.
So, maybe next year.....

The move to Singapore is still on....just a question of when, Pat.

Pat, I think the pain has to retreat way before the 18 days. Having pain in the kidney area for more than 3 to 5 days is not good. You may need to see the doctor way before the 18 days, I reckon. The antibiotics were meant for UTI, weren't they? And you don't have UTI, do you, Pat?
What do you think?

Stay safe, my sister. Hugs and Love.....

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7/4/20 9:07 A

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Happy 4th of July to my American friends!
Prema, I am sure you will miss Hock but no time apart will be as long as the 100 days you were apart from him.
I wonder, had your country banned visitors from other countries? With your numbers being so great, I would think that banning foreigners would be beneficial.
Are you still planning on moving to Singapore?
The doctor said nothing about breaking up the stone. If pain persists beyond the 18 day treatment of antibiotics, then I will ask.


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7/4/20 6:07 A

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Hi Pat.
I am wondering if the doctor wants to break up the kidney stone further through laser treatment to enable it to pass out of your system with minimal pain. the size of that stone is big enough to cause you pain when it tries to pass through the ureter.
Keep us posted, Pat. Kidney stones are really painful!

Your COVID-19 numbers are frightening. Safe distancing, wearing masks at all times when one has to step out for essentials and staying home as much as possible are the only ways to break this.
Your mayor has done the right thing.
And you have always been doing the right thing....thank God for that....

Hock leaves tomorrow and may return in about 2 weeks' time again to see me. Fortunately, we are both old enough to cope with the absence from one another!

Stay safe at all times, my sisters. We have to look out for ourselves and our loved ones and look after our health at all times. So glad that all of you take these matters seriously. If only the rest of America were like all of you!!

Many Hugs and Much Love always, Prema

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Prema, I think the pain is from the 1.6 cm kidney stone in the right kidney. If I sleep right, then there is no pain. When I get up and sit up, the pain returns. I hope this stone passes through my system. I have no UTI pain.
Our Covid 19 cases for yesterday were the 3rd largest for one day. The mayor of Columbus has mandated the wearing of masks in public places starting today.
Ohio cases:
Total. 54,166
Hosp. 8038
Deaths 2903
Our county has the most cases at over 9,000.. There are 88 counties in Ohio.
Kathy, I am glad your white blood cell count is high enough to resume chemotherapy. Hugs

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7/3/20 5:39 A

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Hi Pat.
If the ailment is mild, the antibiotics should only be taken for 3 days or 5 days. The fact that a strong antibiotic has to be given to you for 10 days suggests both the extent of the infection and your tolerance for pain.
Sigh!!!

By the way, the heat and humidity you are experiencing is something we go through here.....the variations are hot and humid, not so hot and not so humid, and thunderstorms thrown in with flooding during the monsoon season.

Hi Ei,
Happy 4th of July....thanks for the reminder. I hope you have a fab time watching the fireworks. My apartment has a vantage view of Kuala Lumpur city and whenever fireworks go on in the main field, we get a great view from the living room and the master bedroom.

Hi Kathy,
I am so so so glad that your white cell count is up. Will be saying a prayer for you and keeping my fingers crossed that the count stays up and that you get your chemo done on Wednesday.

I find myself getting worried about the rising numbers of COVID-19 cases in America and I honestly think it's worth listening to Dr Andrew Fauci's recommendations in controlling the spread of this pandemic. Of course, the fact that the US has a larger population than Italy suggests that, percentage wise, the figures are controllable. They are large in absolute numbers.
Sigh!!!

Stay safe, my sisters. Please stay safe at all times.

Many Hugs, Much Love and Happy TGIF, Prema

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White count is up! I'll have blood work Monday to make sure it's staying up. Chemo on Wednesday.

Enjoy your 4th as the celebration it's intended to be--Independence Day! Stay safe

Love you all,
Kathy

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Ei, happy 4th. So hot this weekend. Enjoy your fireworks show. How have you been feeling?

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Hi Pat,
Sorry to hear you have kidney stones. I do hope the meds help you. Hope Melanie is ok too. Difficult times for so many now.
Prema,
Looks like demon is acting up again. Hope your lawyer can put a restraining order on him. Too bad you have to see him at all.
Kathy,
Hope you make your trip to see you son. Glad Pat will drive you there. I do hope you feel better too.
Happy 4th July to all. Going with a friend and will sit in car to see Fireworks.....
Miss my grandkids but do see them at a distance.
Take care all and God bless, be safe and well.
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7/2/20 2:48 P

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Kathy, we are sisters with sympathetic kidneys. The doctor has not suggested anything. If the Cipro doesn’t help, I will follow up with her next week.

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I could suggest that your left kidney is sympathizing with my left kidney, Pat. What's the plan for the kidney stones?

I went for blood work this morning because the building will be closed tomorrow. I don't know if I'll hear from the doctor's office today or not, but I do know there was a STAT order attached to the request for my blood work.

I'm sitting here in my robe. A friend is bringing chicken soup over later. I passed on an invitation from my brother to go out for breakfast this morning; I just can't risk it. I am exceedingly tired and doing absolutely nothing!!

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Prema, I am currently being treated for a UTI with Cipro, a strong antibiotic. The meds are taken twice a day for 10 days. I will be patient and give the meds a chance to work.
Ugh, so hot and humid, high today, 93F.

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Dear Kathy,
This is really disappointing in one way but quite comforting in another. You definitely have an amazing doctor who pays close attention to your health and these days, good oncologists like her are very hard to find.
In Malaysia, we are now getting used to oncologists who recommend more chemo sessions than actually needed by patients, so the scene is quite worrying here.

As for your Pat, he deserves a hug....not too many sons show this much gratitude and love to their parents....you deserve to have a son like him, my Kakak.

Keep us posted on the next date, Kathy.

Dear Pat,
Really happy for Melanie.

But now there's you with 2 stones in the right kidney and pain in the left kidney. There's either microscopic stones in the left kidney or a stone is moving down the ureter and causing you discomfort.

Either which way, you need to see the doctor pronto. If you complain about pain, and we all know your threshold for pain, then it has to be pretty intense pain. And on top of everything, the pain has returned.

Please keep us posted, Pat.

Stay safe my sisters. Many Hugs and Much Love always.......

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Kathy, I am sorry to hear of the postponement of your chemo and your blood count. You are truly lucky to have Pat and your grandkids to help out and lift your spirits.
No test results yet but Melanie tested NEGATIVE for Covid 19. So thankful for that.
Update: Nothing irregular found on the CT scan except for two stones in the right kidney. So why does the left side hurt? Dr. gave me a prescription for a UTI and I did feel better this morning but this afternoon, the pain has returned.

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Well, instead of chemo today, I'm sitting around trying to accumulate white blood cells. My white cells are too low to proceed with chemo as scheduled. Initially I was scheduled for a blood test again Friday, but Dr. Morgan's nurse called today to say they'd be closed Friday and for me to have the blood work repeated tomorrow. I'm tentatively scheduled for chemo next Wednesday. I'm totally bummed!

Pat, is there word on your scan?

Pat went to the grocery store for me this morning. How can he totally know how much he's appreciated??

I'm hoping to get the chemo back on course.

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Prema, the doctor said I had a UTI and she also scheduled me for blood work and a CT scan. I had the blood work done yesterday and the results were pretty much normal except for my parathyroid. Normal is below 10.3 and mine was 10.7. Previous levels were around 11.7-12.2, so the walking and sunshine have helped that quite a bit. I had my CT scan this morning and he said that my doctor will have the results today.

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Hi Pat,
What did the doctor say? Far too long for pain to stay without any relief in sight. Please keep us posted. Hope it's nothing more serious than anxiety....

Hugs and Love, Prema

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Prema, thanks for the clarification. Melanie has not received her test results. I have had a pain in my left abdomen since last night. I have an appointment for 3:15 today with my doctor.

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6/30/20 5:30 A

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Hi Kathy.
The only thing I can tell you is that your Pat learned from the best....you! Your commitment to his children on a daily basis plus whenever he and Kelley made their trips to catch up with each other, has not been taken for granted. He is a good man, a good husband, a good father and a good son.
A blessing for someone who makes everyone feel blessed.

Hope you recover well enough to make the trip. I am assuming that Rob and Justin, at this stage, cannot make the trip to see you.

Each of the cases are heard in a different court, Kathy. And they are treated as separate cases. Hence, the challenge.
And how is DeMon not embarrassed? Well....if there was some logic in place of the go in that head of his, I am sure that all this would have ceased a long time ago. He is a very self-absorbed egotist with a very narcissistic personality!

Hi Pat. I agree with you on the 19 year old being considered a babysitter and not a teacher.....an irresponsible babysitter at that!
If Kathy and Pat stop by your place, please give both of them a HUGE hug from me. Pat may shake his head when this happens but I am sure he will not refuse 2 hugs from his namesake!!

Basically, DeMon wanted her to say that he had very upset by everything that had been going on and in his distress, he wrote those words. My lawyers took one look at that and told me that the judge would not even allow the document to be admitted into the hearing.
When DeMon went to see her, he said all sorts of things about my Boss and I taking him to the cleaners and basically, she just wanted to say that he is a good man who was distressed by the fact that the marriage had ended. At this stage, it's such a random item thrown into the melee that none of us know why he even bothered to do this!

Yup....time for the steamroller and Kathy's harvester to all come out now.

Kathy, good luck with the blood test. Pat, all the best for the test results.

My sisters, Many Hugs, Much Love and God Bless.....always.....

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Kathy, she should be considered a babysitter instead of a teacher since she handles infants. Such a vulnerable age. There has been no update on the school reopening. If Columbus is on your route to WVa I would be happy to treat you and Pat to breakfast, lunch or dinner, depending on the time of day.
I hope your blood work shows good results.
Prema, time to get the steamroller out before Hock leaves. Demon needs to know that his continued defamation will not be tolerated. You need to counter-sue him for that. Is Dhivia siding with her father on this with her statement? I am confused.

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The thought that a teacher could disregard not only her well being but the well-being of those around her is horrific. I have no idea what the impact on her unborn child could be. I guess, in part, it could just be the ignorance of youth. (There's a lot of that ignorance thing going on around the country still.)

I went for blood work this morning, and then dropped by Pat & Kelley's to pick up Stella & Nolan for the day. When I told Pat that I really want to go see Rob & Justin, he said that if driving was the only way to get that done he'd drive me there. I'm humbled by his commitment to me.

Prema, is the court not allowed to put a stop to this harassment? How is he not totally embarrassed by his conduct?

Stay safe,
Kathy

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6/29/20 9:46 A

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Hi Pat..... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Hock will take over that role with total pleasure. Absolutely....I had to laugh because I can see him rubbing his hands with total glee.

Melanie has a high level of responsibility in this situation and a high level of responsibility overall.
How can a 19 year old be a teacher with that sort of attitude? I am beyond shocked!

My Boss and I had a meeting with the lawyers. DeMon and his lawyer, in their verbosity, have asserted many allegations that can only be deemed as defamatory in nature.....I also saw the witness statement that he asked Dhivia to prepare and it is quite pathetic. None of these will hold in court at all.

The first day at court is this Friday, so I will keep all of you posted.

In the meantime, please stay safe and let us know the outcome of Melanie's tests. Her wonderful upbringing is actually serving her very well - lucky girl!

Many Hugs and Much Love always....

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Update: Melanie found a place to have the Covid-19 test today and at no cost. She left the kids here for about a half hour. We stayed outside and the kids stayed away from me.
The 19 year old teacher that got her positive results yesterday threw a party that same evening. She is also 34 weeks pregnant and has a 14 month old with cerebral palsy. She thinks it is a big joke. What is she thinking?

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Prema, I have a. new job for Hock, man the steam roller! He can do what Kathy and I can not from here in the states. Let him steamroll Demon and your evil landlord. If they think they can take advantage of you, they have another think coming.
As we all start out this difficult week ahead, let us stay strong and united. Love you all.


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6/28/20 5:14 A

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Hi Pat.
I am keeping my fingers crossed for Melanie. She could either be COVID-free or just asymptomatic....either way, she may need to be tested again after 2 weeks in order to ascertain that she's totally free of COVID.

It's more important to just continue the hygiene part of this whole thing as far as the kids are concerned. There's less issues with kids....I suppose I am assuming that Maya is all okay now and will therefore face less problems.

Not the best situation to be in right now but the blessing is that you and your family have a very high level of awareness on all that needs to be done....better than many dumb world leaders, that's for sure.
Keep us posted, Pat. And a prayer coming your way.

Hi Kathy. Again, your Pat is doing the right thing and the level of awareness that you and he have about this is the biggest strength here. He has to exercise the greatest caution with you as you will be the one considered to have the co-morbidity.
A prayer coming your way for this and for all that has to be done on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. All the support and love that you have now Kathy are "things" that you earned over the years with your disposition, kindness and care - you make everyone want to do their best for you in this journey.

As for me, my landlord from hell and my ex-husband from hell are both back in the picture.
The landlord from hell has decided that I vandalized his place in the 2 years that I stayed there and therefore, in addition to the deposit that I put on the place, he needs twice that amount to do up the place.
It's obvious that he is trying to use me to refurbish his neglected apartment and my lawyer has decided to take the matter up.
None of us have ever encountered a landlord like this.....ever....

There's another suit from Bhaskaran coming up next week and so I have to see the lawyers on this matter tomorrow. As they say, an idle mind is a devil's workshop and he is determined to get to me for no other reason than to ensure that no one doubts all the lies he's spread about me.

I visited Uncle Ghaus and Aunty Sarah yesterday. They are slowly seeing their friends, one at a time and heeding their late daughter's advice on "please move on". My late buddy, Karena, gave these instructions to all the members of her family....to soldier on and stay happy if they wanted her to be happy.

I was the first one to visit them yesterday.

They are both coming around and I admire their grit. Aunty told me that she still tears up whenever she talks about Karena but she can still smile as she did with me, when I talked about her.

So, all in all, good moments coupled with challenging ones. And since I have my sisters (and Hock) with me at all times, I am doing well. Very well.....

Many Hugs, Much Love and God Bless....always.....


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Kathy, Melanie's boss has not been able to contact the health department but has decided to close Monday for a deep clean. The parents of the children in that particular classroom have been notified by phone and the rest of the school will receive an email outlining the situation. Melanie feels fine today and thinks it may have been a 24 hour bug. She wants me to watch the kids on Monday while she goes in to work. I am not sure hubby will go along with that. Maybe if I keep the kids downstairs and outside. Lysol will be the key too.
I am so glad that you have the support of family and friends. Hugs for the upcoming week. Love you!

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Being watchful is what we continue to do. Pat had to get a test this week because someone at the office had tested positive. Luckily, he had no direct exposure, but he had been into the office to use the printer. They don't occupy the same spaces at work, but (because of his close contact with me--and for his family too) he felt he should get tested.

I sure hope Hock doesn't take our antics too seriously; he's only in danger for misconduct toward you, Prema! Speaking of misconduct, Bhaskaran out of the picture yet?

I took my car in yesterday morning, praying that it wasn't going to be anything serious; it wasn't. I am so grateful.

I am so thankful for so many things: all of you ( though I know you're not "things") standing in support, family and friends volunteering to help, prayers from every corner of the earth (no corners on a circle, right?). I'm not claiming ownership of this disease; it's a cancer, but it's not "mine." I'll have lab work on Monday, see the doctor on Tuesday, and have chemo on Wednesday. Busy week ahead.

Stay safe, all of you!!
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Update: one out of three teachers tested positive for COVID 19. The other two do not have their results yet. Melanie is scheduled to get tested Monday at 7:25 am.

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Prema, the earliest she can get a test is Monday night. I will keep you updated. I have not heard from her yet today. Melanie gets sick a lot more than anyone else in the family so I think it is just something she picked up at daycare.

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Pat, I agree with you that vomiting is not a symptom but I feel very reassured that she is getting herself tested.
Please keep us posted about the outcome.....I felt a lump in my throat after reading this. I guess since you're my sister, then she would be my "niece" of sorts...

I am thinking of all of you with a prayer in my heart that the next news is good news.

Many Hugs and Much Love always.

PS.....may just be a gut infection caused by food or something....

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Prema, my daughter left work early because of a fever with vomiting. Vomiting is not a symptom of Coronavirus but she is going to get a test.

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Hi Pat.
You are right - those numbers are not very encouraging at all, especially since your total state population is less than the population of my country. Let's keep our fingers crossed that the numbers start reducing before winter so that the flu season does not further complicate matters for everybody....
And by the way, 5500 steps by 9am.....jolly good, my Kakak!!!

Hi Kathy.
I adore that note of encouragement for Hock...."we will not use that heavy equipment we have, my man, but let's not test the waters here, shall we" and we say this to him Clint Eastwood style with a gun in hand and a grimace on the face!

Would you not want to use a cleaning lady too, Kathy? especially when you feel the fatigue on some days more than others? Worth considering?

I am glad that you had breakfast with Wayne and his wife - starting off the day well with good food and good company seems to be the best recipe for having a few good subsequent days. And I hope this positivity takes you all the way through your chemotherapy.....and don't forget the number of cheerleaders you will be having throughout the day...

Prayers, Many Hugs and Much Love always, Prema

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Kathy, I slowed down after the initial walk but now that dinner is done, I’ll get out for some more. It’s too hot mid day to walk. I went out to breakfast too. We had breakfast outdoors on the restaurant’s patio.
I am sure you are anxious about your next chemo therapy but you are strong and you have a big team of cheerleaders. Prayers and a lot of love are coming your way.

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Pat, you've definitely surpassed me on steps...it's 3 p.m. and I have just over 6000. You go, girl!!

Somehow, Prema, my feelings are that Hock will not require the heavy equipment; we still have the keys to the storage shed though, if needed. emoticon

Pat came to work from here this afternoon to stay out of the way of their cleaning lady. Nolan and I discussed his first sewing project. Soon.

My friend Wayne, the science teacher on my team, and his wife picked me up this morning and took me to breakfast. It was good to spend time with them. Wayne has always been my brother from another mother. His shoulders caught many of my tears after the deaths of my parents; he's also quite a practical joker. His pranks are legendary!!

It feels good to feel good, and I'm anticipating my next chemo. It's a necessary path. I will endure; I will survive. Thankfully, I do that with the support of many.

Loving my sisters,
Kathy

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Prema, I already have 5500 steps at 9:00 am. I sure do miss the pool though.
Our cases in Ohio over the past 7 days have been 700, 609, 531, 546, 729, 590 and 632. Not good.

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Pat, the numbers are going up and it's really a combination of everything and everyone going out there and not practicing safe distancing. They have now found out that packages and surfaces are less problematic....staying close to another human being is not safe at all.
But people will not learn.

In Malaysia, we have recorded single digit cases over the last 3 days....and if we get past mid-July with this sort of data, we will be fine again. And we can then focus on recovery. A lot of "ifs" and "buts" in the equation.....but I hope we make this happen!

By the way, you can't see me but I am giving you a standing ovation and bowing over and over again to you.....incredible that you were able to walk more than 10000 steps. Those knees are might scared of you....they had a meeting and the recovered knee must have given the operated knee a piece of her mind!!

Take care, Pat. And take care, my Kakak-Kakak.

Many Hugs and Much Love always...

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Prema, we were both posting at the same. One more month before the torture begins.

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Kathy, I bet you are an excellent hugger. Our playgrounds opened up last week but I do not think they are getting much use. Our Covid 19 cases have been higher the past 5 days. That concerns me. They blame the increase on people going out more but will not attach any blame to the rioters, looters and protesters.
I am glad you got to enjoy a walk with the grandkids. I took my longest post surgery walk yesterday. I got in over 10,000 steps. I was gone so long that Jim called me to make sure I was okay.
Prema, enjoy your day. I hope we have not scared Hock away.

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Hi Pat. They will be lifting restrictions on trainers from 1st July and my Boss has asked me to give it a month more before I start with Moskito again. I think he's right and if by end-July we do not have a second round of Covid-19, then Moskito and I are safe to start ourselves on the road to "Torture with a Sadist"....

Hi Kathy. It's wonderful to hear that the doctor is not unduly worried about the hiatal hernia but I do hope that this is the last addition to your personal medical dispensary. And the neuropathy has not left you either.....and with all of that, you and Pat can still remember to remind that man in my life that he has not yet graduated to the point where the steamroller will be put away for good! emoticon emoticon

And Nolan can still make us all laugh....if it's any consolation, he sounds like Vishal did when he was younger.....and fortunately, they grow out of that stage. Admittedly though, at one point, I worried that he might "never get it"....

And yes, I think you and Pat are great huggers and I look forward to the day when I can hug you both and get hugged back. YES!!!!!

Many Hugs, Much Love....always, my sisters!

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Man, Moskito was nearly lost in COVID-19. How could we not periodically remind Prema what she's missing? She may be making up for lost time with Hock now, but the Moskito will emerge with a plan of his own.

Dr. Miller prescribed Omeprazole for the hiatal hernia. He said it's not all that uncommon, so now I have an "ordinary" ailment and one more pill to add to my daily regimen. Yea!! The neuropathy is worse and actually kept me awake last night. I'm grateful that it's only affecting my feet, although walking is an odd sensation when you can't feel your feet.

It's nice that Vishal is thinking about marriage. Too bad he's not really sharing much information. Soon, huh? How's Hock with take out? He doesn't actually HAVE to cook the meal, just provide it. Wine? That's easy enough! I agree with Pat that Hock needs to be aware of the heavy equipment we're willing to deploy. No threat, just insurance.

Pat, what a difference a haircut makes. Quickly, it turns those little boys into little men.

Nolan!! Yesterday, before it got too hot, the grandkids and l went on my "Stella Walk," which is just over 1.5 miles. There were playgrounds at the school we were passing, and they wanted to play. As we headed back toward the house, it was different from where we'd normally go, and I was interested to know if the kids could orient themselves and know which way to the house. They were both able to immediately recognize the bank about a block from the house. Nolan's remark, " I'm glad it's close to home so then I can dump the sand from my shoe. " I told him that he could actually dump the sand now, without walking home with it in his shoe. Where do they come up with these ideas?

I send hugs to you all wish I could deliver them in person. I am a very good hugger!!
Kathy

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Prema, I think Melanie's kids are a combo of both parents. Maxwell was so good about getting his haircut and the stylist was so proud of her work that she took pictures of it for herself.
Woohoo on Vishal and Natalie talking about marriage.
Have the regulations been lifted on personal and fitness trainers? Have you been able to see Moskito?

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I shall definitely tell Hock about our hidden weapon of bodily destruction, Pat...

I just had a look at the picture on Facebook, Pat. He is such a cutie. He looks so dignified after the haircut. Who does he resemble, Pat? His mum or dad?

PS Vishal told me that he and Natalie definitely discussed marriage....and that's all he will tell me!!! emoticon

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Prema, tell Hock that you do not have to plant any ideas in my head. Our girl deserves the best! If you have not yet told him about the steamroll, you might want to give him the heads up.
I took Max for a haircut today. You may want to check out the picture I posted on Facebook.

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Kathy, I am glad that you found out what was exacerbating the hernia but feel bad about the fact that you tire more easily than before. The only consolation is that it's temporary until the chemo is completely over and you are on the road to total recovery. We will all rejoice when that happens, my Kakak.
I rejoice a little now, too, especially since you did get to spend time with Stella and Nolan.

Pat, glad that you saw Maya and Max but it can't have been much fun for any one on a littered beach. How sad!!
It's really fun having Hock around...but a glass of wine and dinner on the table... emoticon ....not quite his forte....he was sure I had planted the idea in your mind.... emoticon

The numbers in America are reducing in some places but rising in others. So, please continue to stay safe, my sisters.

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Kathy, I have been walking ever since the coronavirus hit. I had to replace my water aerobics class with something and with two good knees, I am pounding the pavement big time. I am so sorry that you tire more frequently and I know how much you want to tackle the outside chores. I am glad though that you get to spend quality time with Nolan and Stella.
I have been seeing the grandkids. Today I went to the beach with Max and Maya. So sad though that there was trash that never got picked up from yesterday and maybe all week. Trash cans overflowing, parking lots littered and the beach littered too. We brought a beach umbrella and were able to stay at least 10 feet away from others. Donovan has been riding his bike around the neighborhood so Davis is the only one I don’t see that much.
Ei, it is nice to hear from you. Have you been able to go swimming yet this summer? Today was the first time I put on a swimsuit since March 12th.
Prema, oh boy, 10 more days with Hock. I bet the work days will feel longer than usual with having Hock waiting for you with a glass of wine and a fine dinner on the table. I was not running errands yesterday, I walked in the morning, helped Jim with an outdoor painting project and then went to a new friend’s birthday party. The party was outdoors and we tried to keep our distance. No hugging or touching of any kind.
SM, we have been together as a group for years and we are always happy to welcome others. We feel each other’s pain and reach out to console each other when necessary.


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I've walked the last two mornings, farther today than yesterday. It appears that straining, whether pushing or lifting, exacerbates the hernia. I worked a little in the yard both yesterday morning and today. It is hard to see what needs to be done and know that I can't work long enough to eliminate it. I do tire easily.

Stella and Nolan will be with me tomorrow. I hate losing time with them when I'm not at my best.

It's supposed to storm tonight. We've had rain, but more rain would be great.

Pat, are you still socially distancing from the grandchildren? Jim's getting out to golf, but are you getting out too? I bet you're missing your water exercise.

Ei, it's good to hear from you. Your health is doing okay?

Prema, I'm quite sure I had very few words for you in the post that never made it online simply because I knew you had other priorities at the time. I'm glad Hock gets to stick around for a while, even though work is calling your name.

Hopefully, this one clears the cyber ghost...

Loving my sisters from other misters,
Kathy

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Hi Ei. How wonderful to hear from you. And yes, I have been enjoying the last 4 days with Hock and tomorrow, work returns with a vengeance. He will be here for the next 10 days or so, and this has been the longest time we have spent together in the same place.

Hi SMJTELLER, none of us have actually met each other...we bonded through the same values we share and since I am the youngest in this group at 62, Kathy, Pat and Ei are very much my older sisters minus the same family birth certificate. These 3 amazing ladies have been my cheerleaders, my shoulders, my champions.....I cannot feel more blessed than I do now.

I am glad you have a strong support group yourself. And you have gone through quite a lot of challenges. My deepest condolences on the sad loss of your father.

You must know that we all have a constant companion called Cyber Ghost that visits us in turn..... and this time around, it appears to be Kathy's turn!

Kathy, that Cyber Ghost turns up at the worst possible time! The fact that you were even posting makes me feel happy. Hope the pain and discomfort is much less today....

Pat, I hope you were busy because you had a hot date with Jim and nothing else. If it was errands and stuff on a Saturday..... emoticon

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Oh my Saturday was so busy that I never made it here. It’s after midnight and I am getting ready for bed. I’ll catch up later.

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Well, my well-crafted message just evaporated because the computer said the sparkpeople site was not available, and I just can't redo it now.

Love to you all,
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IrishEl, Pat, Prema, Kathy, I like seeing this small community in action. Clearly you know and care about each other. I understand about still mourning a mother, mine passed 13 years ago and lost my 96 yr old father this March. Surgeries, illnesses...me and my support group experience that: cancers, depression, family situations, losing jobs, new careers, and --thakfully-- a good measure of joyful occasions, too.

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Good morning lovely ladies. Happy 1st day of Summer!! Hope we have a nice one since it goes so quick here.
Reading the posts and thinking of all of you.
Kathy, so sorry about the hernia. You have had so much going on. I do keep you in prayers and hope things will go better and also with the chemo. Glad your support system is so great. Hug and prayers for you.
Pat,
How are you doing? Glad Jim is back to part time work and enjoying golf too. The social distancing is hard with my grandkids and friends......My girls have started to hug me with a Mask on......dr said it was ok, so we are slowly doing this. I know you miss you mom. Her birthday had to be hard. I always feel the same about my mom and she is gone for several years now. Holidays are hard for those we have lost but I guess we need to think of them as our angel in heaven watching over us here below....Take care and stay safe and well.
Prema,
So happy to hear the good news that HOCK is with you now. Wow, 100 days is too long to be apart.....Hold him close and do not let him go now....Hugs and prayers for you both and enjoy the time now. Every day is to be cherished.....
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Pat, I marvel at one common denominator among you, Ei and Kathy. All 3 of you have had more than your fair share of medical issue, including surgeries and all of you bounced back, each and every time. All the time.
You may have had some anxious moments but no medical issue has ever gotten the better of any one of you!!

My beautiful sisters......no one else can do this like you do. NO ONE!!

I hope the doctors will find a way to relieve Kathy of her discomfort and pain. Keeping my fingers crossed.

By the way, Pat, please continue to keep staying safe and social distancing. I read with total alarm that WHO has predicted a rise in COVID-19 cases in America.
Honestly, that's the last thing we need!!!

Many Hugs, Much Love and God Bless all of you, my lovely sisters...

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Kathy, I am so sorry that you have a hernia. I had one (umbilical) back in 1996 that I had surgery for. Not fun at all. I pray that they have found a way to relieve the pain. I can not imagine that they would operate on it now. Take care. By the way, how is Rob doing and has he and Justin settled into their new house?
Prema, now you have a guy that has a clue! He and I get each other. Tell him is on my best friends list. As long as he is making my girl happy, he is the man! You will have to bring him with you when you visit the USA.

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Kathy, I know about this hernia and in fact, Dhivia once also suffered from this. My ex-MIL went through a great deal of discomfort once when she had this and it was triggered by her straining during her bowel movements and also when she tried to move her prayer altar by herself.
By itself, it's harmless but in combination with everything you've gone through (and are still going through!), I am pulling my hair out.
It's been such a long day for you....so, thank you for the update.

Hock saw me smiling from ear to ear and asked me if you were giving me an update. I told him that he missed that smile. The one he saw, was me grinning at Pat's statement about getting off the email and getting back to my man!
I told Hock what you had written, Pat, and he immediately said "Pat, you de smart one....tell her like it is!"
He adores both of you despite knowing you far less than I do.

The power you both have..... emoticon

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Prema, I can feel your happiness, joy. I know you consider yourself fortunate to have rekindled that relationship; we're cheering on the sidelines!! emoticon

I spent about 3 1/2 hours in the ER this afternoon. I had pain in my right chest,near my right breast. It felt like something was stuck. I called for an appointment with Dr. Miller and the nurse, after consulting with the doctor, told me the doctor wanted me to go to the ER. It was a whole lot of waiting: blood work, chest x-ray to check for a blood clot, and a CT scan to check out chest anomalies. In the end, I have an esophageal hernia and will see Dr. Miller next Tuesday. Jackie and Marcia came to the house after Pat brought me home and stayed probably 3 hours.

It's been a long day. Kelley had gone into work today so, when Pat picked me up to take me to the ER, he had Stella and Nolan with him. Kelley had to meet him at the hospital to take the kids.

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Prema, now that Hock is there, never let him go. Try to keep him close. I hope travel restrictions continue to ease up so that frequent meetings can continue. 100 days is a long time to not have your sweetie around. Now stop reading this and get back to your man!!!

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Hi Kathy. I am so so so happy that you posted your message today. Pat nailed it when she commended your Pat - his love for you is so obvious that it melts my heart. And I was right when I said you make such an impact on anyone and everyone with your presence.....even Teresa is stepping up. Wow!

Hi Pat. I think Kathy is so right....your mum must be smiling in happiness knowing that her daughter reminisces about her during every special occasion. I am surrounded by ladies who are able to spread their love and hugs to all those around them....I am truly blessed.

And both of you did the countdown with me....Hock arrived late morning and we've been chatting through a home made lunch and a home made dinner, the latter with Vishal and Natalie....
.....he reminded me again that when the world comes back to normal, I should make a trip to see all of you.....and I will!!!

Woohoo is absolutely right, Pat. I have not seen Hock for 100 days emoticon

Many Hugs and Much Love Always, my sisters.....

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Kathy, you are so right. I am so glad I went back to NY for her 90th birthday. That was the last time I saw her.
Pat is such a good son. I am surprised though that Teresa has stepped up to help with Stella and Nolan. She has come a long way.
I continue to think of you and pray for a complete recovery.
It is Thursday in Malaysia, woohoo for Prema.

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Pat, those birthdays, anniversaries, holiday celebrations will always find you missing your mom. Those days will always hold significance. Know she's smiling because she remembers those good times.

Prema in countdown mode.... Do you realize what a miracle it is that we have connected like we did? What are the odds??

Today's been a bit easier than yesterday. Son Pat came over to mow this evening. Bless him; he's such a good son. He and Kelley are planning to join some friends at Tablerock Lake, without kids. That should be right before my 3rd treatment, so I should feel good enough to help watch Stella and Nolan. Teresa's been a real champ through all of this with helping out with the kids. It will be easier if we can split the kids up at least part of the time. The other part of this is that my nephew wants to visit,and I told him not to plan to come the first week after my treatment. That may become a factor in this too.

Thank you for always being there for me. Cherish is the word!!

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Prema, you are such a kind person to find time in your day to check up on your sisters. There is so much love between us.
Yesterday would have been my mother's 92nd birthday. I felt so different not calling her with good wishes. I am sure she had one heck of a celebration with her 7 brothers and 5 sisters in heaven. She was the last one of her generation to pass.

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Dearest Pat,
Only a sister who shares my personal excitement the way you do, can make me feel good about feeling excited!! emoticon
And I will definitely be returning to this board every day....I really want to know how Kathy is doing. Even Hock knows how important my sisters are to me....

SMJTELLER, thank you for your kind support to Kathy, It's truly appreciated. She's an amazing lady who makes everyone who knows her, feel very special...and honestly, even if you have only known her for only a short while, you feel her presence in your life.

Many Hugs and Much Love, my gorgeous sisters.


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Knewmetoday - can empathize with your cancer journey. Treatments and medications can do a number on your body and your spirit. I'm glad you have a good support circle of friends and medical professionals; they are so important at every stage. May you be safe and well as u trod your health journey.

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Prema, believe it or not, I am also counting down the time you have left until you see Hock. If you miss a few days messaging, I will understand. Wink, wink.

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Hi Pat and Kathy. This is really embarrassing but only my sisters will understand the notion that 2 senior citizens are doing the countdown till they see each other again.
I see him on Thursday after not seeing him for about 105 days.
And to think that we had actually not set eyes on each other for close to 40 years before this!!! emoticon

He tells me that I should make it a point to visit you both.....

When I pray tomorrow, I will thank all the many guardian angels who are watching over you, Kathy....Pat, Sharon, Suzette, Tiffany, Wayne.
You are so loved Kathy....it warms my heart to know that you are surrounded by love, care and concern by one and all including those who recently got to know you.

And to still have that friend that you can call at 3 a.m.....priceless!

I am glad that you got through your side effects - such a trooper!

And you will have long days with Stella and Nolan soon.....to the point where you will be happy to pack them back to their parents again!

So, so proud of you, my Kakak.

Many Hugs and Much Love Always, my sisters...

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Kathy, I am going to call this your roller coaster ride to recovery stage. Ups, downs, twists and turns. Once you step off this ride, things will start returning to normal. Both feet will be steady on the ground. How nice of Wayne to call you, just when you needed it. Funny he things work out.
Jim is doing well. He is back to working 2 days a week and playing golf 2 days a week. Donovan has been riding his bike over to say hi and I saw Max and Maya when I took Melanie to drop off her car at the mechanic.

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Yesterday was a rough day, but I'm reminded, once again, about the wonderful people I have around me. The side effects of medicines can be confusing and devastating, and frequently contradictory-- like may cause constipation/diarrhea. Unfortunately, I got trapped in that one and was pretty miserable yesterday. Pat, Sharon (across the street), and Suzette all came to my rescue. Tiffany, Dr. Morgan 's nurse was also on the sidelines and fielded multiple phone calls from me. After much discomfort, the problem was eradicated. Tony and Suzette brought over some soup for my supper, and I was in bed by 8 or shortly after. I still feel pretty washed out this morning, but I'm not uncomfortable.

Last night my friend Wayne called. I had tried to call him when l found out about the cancer. He has a cell phone but can't manage to retrieve his messages, so he was unaware of my calls. We taught together and, aside from being an outstanding practical joker, he is my "brother from another mother." He was so apologetic but ready to do anything I need. He said I'd just been on his mind. He's the friend you call at 3 a.m. to come get you out of jail--steadfast, like you are!I. Soon, when this fatigue stuff passes, he said he and his wife would pick me up and go out to eat.

Part, of me would like to hop in the car and go for breakfast, but I'm not sure how my stomach would hold up.

Prema, are you all settled in your new living quarters? I'm excited for your visit with Hock.

Pat, are you getting more time with the grandkids? Yesterday was to have been my day with Stella and Nolan--that didn't work out too well. Jim doing okay?

Love you ladies,
Kathy


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Kathy, all good news. When is your next chemo?

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Dr. confirmed that stent was in place. He said a bladder spasm caused the sudden release. I've had no other issues since he started me on the prescription. The presence of the stent evidently caused the spasm.

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Prema, it is getting close to your visit with Hock. I am so excited for you.

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Kathy, hang in there, my darling Kakak. Just hang in there.

You have been such an epitome of courage and tenacity. You just have to get past this stage and all will be well again.
I am waiting for the day when I can safely hop onto a plane and travel to America to see you, Pat and Ei......and to give you the biggest hugs ever for being our champion.

You go, girl.....as Pat said "proud of our big sister"....YES!!!

Many Hugs and Much Love Always, Prema

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Kathy,vi hope you get in a few naps this afternoon. Hugs.

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Fatigue has settled in, much earlier than the last time. Moving takes effort. Fortunately, I've not had any further incontinence issues; I'm just tired.

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Prema, I am so proud of our big sister, Kathy. She has a huge team cheering for her. We will get her through all of this.

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Hi Pat and Kathy.

Kathy, it's a double-edged sword right now. The possibility that the cancer could be diminishing is getting me excited and hopeful.....and listening to you and the agony you're undergoing right now with the stent and the incontinence makes me so unhappy.

But Pat is so right when she called you an optimist. It's really because of the way you communicated your message that my optimism is now rearing its head all the way and saying "Thank You God".

Rooting for you. Praying for you. Sending you hugs. Cheering you on. Everything!

Many Hugs and Much Love, my beautiful sisters.....

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Kathy, I am so sorry that things are not going well but you are forever the optimist. The thought that the tumor is shrinking is a good one and I pray that it is true. Hang in there and stay strong. We are all rooting for you. Hugs and much love.

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The stent appears to be an epic faiI! I started out with occasional incontinence. The stent was put in, and today I had to send Pat for depends-type garments. I finally got a call back from the urologist's nurse after 4 p.m. She had me check to see if I could see a blue string extending from my urethra. She seems to think the stent may have dislodged. The doctor prescribed a drug for bladder spasms, hoping it will help. I'll see De. Jensen @ 8:20 Monday morning. Since the incontinence has increased, it's the only time since surgery there's not been blood in my urine. In addition to picking up my supplies, Pat went out bought a waterproof mattress cover for me too. The other reason may be that the tumor is already diminishing and no longer blocking the ureter, causing the stent to no longer be needed.

Prema, the infusion of chemo drugs is what makes me cold.I have a variety of chemo blankets that have been given to me since my initial diagnosis. Wearing long sleeves might have helped, but it's not so easy to go vein-hunting for the infusion site.

This was originally typed yesterday but it didn't upload, which means I had to do it over.

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Prema, we have restrictions on hair salons too but not time limits. Both the employee and customer must wear masks, people must social distance and no blow drying.

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How wonderful that you were able to see all 4 of them.....and it sounds like they all missed you considerably.

I went for a hair trim today and my hairdresser was equipped, in accordance with our government SOP, when she trimmed my overgrown mop. She told me that they only do hair trims and nothing else as customers are only allowed to stay for an hour at the most. My trim took 20 minutes and I was out of there in a flash!

The security at the mall was tight and the lifts were not allowed to be used by the customers. We had to use the escalators and at the entrance of these escalators, temperatures were checked as were the main entrances of the malls. That part felt safe but the shoppers themselves showed varying degrees of cooperation. I felt sorry for those manning the various outlets.

Hope Kathy is doing better today, Pat......

Many Hugs and Much Love......

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I saw all four of my grandkids yesterday. Davis spent some alone time with me. We went to the store with facemasks on and he bought some Father's day gifts for his dad. Then we picked up some drive through lunch and brought it to my house. We played with Legos and games. Donovan walked over and stopped in to say high. Melanie is having car problems so she stopped by so we could hear the noise it was making. Max and Maya got out of the car and ran around the yard. I felt so good to see everyone. We are taking Melanie's car in for repairs on Monday.

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Hi Pat. The figures that we are seeing here right across the USA shows the numbers going up and there are many states that are still inundated.
The doctors are already feeling the stress of many months of handling COVID-19 under the current restrictions and this has come through in many interviews they show.

Some countries have eliminated COVID-19 altogther, like Taiwan and New Zealand. Coincidentally, they have ladies as their heads of state and that could very well be the reason for the pandemic being brought under control.... emoticon

I am in total agreement with you about the social distancing. It's hard me for me as well, especially since I am a very huggy sort of person.

Kathy, I hope it's looking brighter for you this time around.....praying....

Many Hugs and Much Love, my sisters.....

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Prema, social distancing is a real hard adjustment to make after a lifetime of hugging ,kissing and hand shaking. Our cases in Ohio are still going down even with the protests and rioting but it may be because there has been less testing. I heard that 70 test sites across the US were destroyed by rioters or not available because of the crowds in downtown areas. Such a shame.
Kathy, I hope you had a good sleep and are feeling up to getting outside today.

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Pat, I would definitely err on the side of caution when it comes to vaccine and travel. That's why Hock and I decided to wait for a week to see how how much travel would be taking place before coming to see me.
It's now been proven without a doubt that COVID-19 only spreads through contact. Not from groceries and metal bars but from normal touching of other people. So, the only way to break this deadly disease is social distancing.

And you're right about Mum. She's 90....no point telling her more than the usual mundane stuff.

Kathy, I am also glad your first treatment is over. And I hope you are feeling better now. I must say I cannot understand why you were shivering but no matter....as long as you are okay.

Many Hugs and Much Love, my Kakak-Kakak.

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I am glad your first treatment is over with. Hugs.

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I'm home. The treatment was just over 3 hours. I spent part of it shivering under two blankets and part of it sleeping. Pat was at my side. I'm just tired.

I'll make it back later.

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Prema, your mum needs to be sheltered from things she can not comprehend. Good for you. There were things that we didn’t share with my mother.
Jim and I work really hard at avoiding the virus. If a vaccine is made available, we will both get it but only after people have been getting it for about a month. It seems that being outdoors reduces the risk of catching it.
We going to have storms today. I got my groceries this morning. Davis called me wanting to come over but since we can’t be outdoors, I picked up a legos kit for him and a rocket launching kit for Donovan.

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Hi Pat.
Vishal and I believe that the reason she looks so young is because Mum is almost totally ignorant of everything and anything that's going on around her. She's been that way, for as long as I can remember. She turns every conversation into something about her. And till now, she does not want to know that I am divorced - she told my god-daughter that she does not know what I am up to living apart from DeMon. And reckons that I just have a bad temper!!

She has no idea that my sister is facing mental health issues.

The lady next to me is mum's new helper. Vishal has not introduced Natalie to either his grandmothers or his father. My ex-MIL and DeMon are aware through others, that Vishal has a girlfriend but he would rather have Natalie only know me and Dhivia. My mum is totally oblivious.

Pat, just keep a watch for a second round of COVID-19 which, according to WHO researchers, could take place sometime late autumn/early winter. You will be considered as an individual with co-morbidity so it places you somewhat in a high risk category.

Glad you got your walk...

Many Hugs and Much Love always....

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Prema,your mom is a young looking 90. Is that Natalie standing next to you? The last time I visited my mom was for her 90th birthday. We surprised her by driving 7 and 1/2 hours to see her. Her birthday fell on June 16th. My brother wants to have a memorial service for her at his house in mid July. I am not sure if the restrictions will be lifted by then. NY state has about the strictest rules as downstate NY has the most cases in the USA. Obviously though you can still go out and riot and loot.
Kathy, I am so glad you slept better. I do not know why but both of my grandsons asked me the same question. They got the same answer that you gave Nolan.
I got my walk in early today. It is going up to 91 today with a heat index of 96. Thank goodness for AC.

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Hi Pat and Kathy. Yes, I am really looking forward to seeing Hock again and this time, he plans to stay around much longer than he usually does. That sounds even better, I think.

Pat, I am trying to imagine a gathering of 300 people who try to maintain social distancing.....it feels very challenging, to say the least.

The places where COVID-19 numbers are still rising are in South America, particularly Brazil and South Asia, mainly India and Pakistan. And WHO insists that the worst is not over for the rest of the world. The prediction is that there will be another round in late autumn/winter.....I hope that does not happen.

Kathy, I think the cyber ghost visited you and instead of wanting to wipe out everything, decided to have a bit of fun with you. I will take spelling errors any day over postings that disappear from the face of the earth.

Glad you slept better and also glad that your grandkids think it's common place for anyone to shave their head. However, I did not expect Nolan's questions to arise during the process of shaving..... emoticon ...he's just too cute!

We celebrated my mum's 90th birthday on 6th June at her place. We maintained social distancing from her and had to remind her repeatedly why it was important to do this for her sake. I brought lunch and cupcakes with her initials on each cupcake followed by a 9 and a 0.

Here's one of the pictures....



Apparently, after we left, my cousins and their families came over and completely disregarded social distancing. There was nothing we could do and I just had to refrain myself and my Vishal from saying anything to her or to them.

Have a safe Tuesday, my Kakak-Kakak. Prayers are still being said for you, Kathy.

Many Hugs, Much Love and God Bless,
Prema


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I'm guessing the keyboard decided to change kakak to kayak, and I just didn't catch it --even though I do try to edit.

I did sleep better last night. Occasionally, I get a pinching sensation in either the kidney or bladder. It's not constant.

Linda shaved my head today. The kids could've cared less. Nolan asked me if babies in the tummy have anything to play with. Guess what came next? How do they get in there anyway? I told him that was a question for his Mommy and Daddy.

So glad you get to see Hock, Prema. You deserve time off from work.

Our bodies are amazing, created to function and heal properly. Just keep walking. If I don't make it out early, I don't make it out.

Stay safe, ladies.
Kathy

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Prema, hooray for the 18th! I bet you will be counting down the days, hours and minutes until you see him.
Just about everything has an opening date in June. The last to open are the casinos, playgrounds, skating rinks, trampoline parks and reception halls. You will be able to have a reception for up to 300 people but no dancing and people must socially distance.

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Hi Pat and Kathy.

Hock and I will be seeing each other on the 18th which is next Thursday. I am hoping to take off on Thursday and Friday from work to be with him.

Pat, looks like your knees are able to take more walking now so I think the surgery definitely went well and you have recovered incredibly well.

Kathy. I am so glad that you are seeing Stella and Nolan and also glad that you are educating them about cancer. I told my girlfriend and she and her daughter have also decided to follow your example.
Like Pat, I am also sorry that you were in discomfort last night. I am praying that you sleep better tonight.

You also got all the relationships right, Kathy. The only note I would add in here is that the word is Kakak. Not Kayak.....Apart from that one minor detail, all else are absolutely spot on.

Many Hugs and Much Love, Prema

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Kathy, I think you have that right. It was nice of Prema to clarify. I am sorry you can not sleep, hopefully you adjust to the stent and you sleep better tonight. God bless.

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I did home church again this morning, then went to a couple of stores to see if I could find elastic. Not much available, though I did find some clear elastic. It looks like my mask is just there--nothing holding it in place. I've been watering and also trimmed some limbs from the fence.

I'll get Stella and Nolan again tomorrow. I'm getting my head shaved (the kids should enjoy that), and I'm guessing Pat will mow when he comes to get the kids.

Sleep was not so great last night. I ended up taking a pain pill about 3 a.m., not because I was in great pain but so I could get to sleep. Changing positions while sleeping ends up waking me because there's a pinching in my bladder that then keeps me awake. I'm sure it will pass EVENTUALLY.

Glad Bhaloo is doing well glad your settling in to your new apartment. I'm really glad that seeing Hock is in your near future. So I have one kayak and two adik-adik. Ei has three adik-adik. Pat has two kayak-kayak and one adik. And you, sweet young thing, have three kayak-kayak. Did I get that right?

Gonna go move the water one last time.

Sweet Monday coming up!!
Kathy

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Prema, my Adik, we are so lucky that our Kakak-Kakak are doing well, and thanks for clarifying the use of the words Adik and Kakak. Hooray, you get to see Hock very soon. I am so happy for you.
I got in a good walk this morning before it got too hot. It was my longest walk yet, 1200 more steps than usual.
Kathy and Ei, have a glorious Sunday.

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All my 3 Kakak-Kakak posted today! emoticon ....(dancing with joy!)

Kathy, here's the refresher :
Kakak : older sister and Kakak-Kakak : older sisters
Adik : younger sister and Adik-Adik : younger sisters

You can't see me but I am doing a crazy jig and dance and no. it is not a Hindu prayer dance. It's me going absolutely cuckoo that you feel great and that you slept well. I am definitely going to take one day at a time with you, my sister, and count my blessings each and every day.......

Pat, the new apartment is smaller but feels so much more comfortable and has a far better aura than the previous place.

So, yes, I am settling in....although I am far from done with the previous landlord. He is supposed to be handing over my deposit to me by the end of this month....there will be a legal letter on its way to him if he's late with this.

Hi Ei. Yes, Bhaloo is very happy. I will be going over to see him tomorrow and will keep you posted about how well he is doing....
And yes. I will tell Hock that you said hello.

The government lifted inter-state travel today - so Hock and I will be able to see each other very soon.

Please feel all my hugs, all my love and all my prayers, my beautiful and wonderful sisters.

God Bless, Prema

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Ei, yes, I am taking care of myself. Walking everyday and doing on-line silver sneakers classes on Monday and Friday.
Kathy, great news, only one trip to the bathroom!!! I am so happy to hear that you slept well. It was nice of Lee to drop off dinner for you.

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I'm doing great! April's husband Lee dropped off the evening meal for us--April was stuck in the beauty shop. Pat washed up dishes after we ate. I slept well, getting up only once during the night. Whew! That's been a long time coming!

Thank you for your care and your prayers, my sisters. I need a refresher lesson, Prema. I was doing great with adik-adik, until Ei confessed to being older.

Kathy

Ei, just read about your haircut...gonna get me one too!! emoticon

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Kathy,
Sounds good with 3 chemo to see if it removes the tumor. Loads of prayers for you and sure hope it goes well and minimal side effects too. Would be nice for you to have you nephew visit soon and enjoy some special time together. Wonderful that he wants to come see you.
Prema,
Happy for Bhaloo that he is in a special permanent home and loving it.
Hope you are doing well and hopefully getting settled in your new apartment. Will be so nice to have a place where you are comfortable and kind landlord too. Tell Hock we said hello....Take care and be safe.
Pat,
Hope you are doing well and taking good care of yourself. Enjoy your weekend and hope you get to see your family at social distancing if you can.
My patio looks so nice now and plan to sit out there later and play some games.
Looks like good Summer weather is here to stay. Got my haircut yesterday and had my mask on and so did my hairdresser. Sure feels good to have it shorter again.
hugs, love and prayer dear ladies,
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