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8/18/19 9:44 P

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emoticon Welcome to the team. It is so difficult when we are struggling. Having a good psych and therapist is a great formula for feeling better.

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8/18/19 11:53 A

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Welcome Machol. Isn't it a wonderful feeling to find a place to fit in without judgement. I am so grateful to have found this little team. I'm glad that you found us too.

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8/18/19 11:34 A

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Welcome to the team Machol. I'm so glad that you've found us. I also have PTSD with dissociation. Now that I'm on the right meds, I no longer dissociate. I wish you well on your journey.

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8/17/19 11:58 P

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I've had several different diagnoses through the years, but it wasn't until 3 years ago that I was diagnosed with PTSD with dissociative tendencies. I've got a great therapist and my psychiatrist has me on the right meds (I also have bipolar disorder non-specified). I'm slowly climbing out of the hole that I fell into 4 years ago. I still have a ways to go.

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8/4/19 3:01 P

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For the PTSD nightmares, minipress (I think that is the name of it) helps. It was initially researched as a mild blood pressure med, but was found to work very well with PTSD nightmares. I had to come of of it once I lost weight and my blood pressure not only came back to normal, but started becoming really low... The VA may not be up to date with the newer meds, so I'd let him know so he can ask about it. Counseling and being around others that have been through similar things may help. If he likes coffee, introduce him to Black Rifle Coffee Company, who knows, he may be able to contact them and/or even get a job with them, it will do good for him to be around other vets (the company is owned/operated by vets). They have youtube channels and do a lot of talks and are great. I don't think you need to step back just because he his married, especially if she is not being understanding toward him. I know in the case of my cousin (Vietnam vet) his wife did not help and ended up making things worse and eventually leaving him (not saying that is the case here, just that it was in that particular situation). There are also online games that are military type games that all the member in certain groups are vets and it seems to help them to cope. They even have training and ops. I'm not coordinated enough for those types of games, LOL.

Hope that helps some.

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8/4/19 1:52 P

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good afternoon- I am a mother of a Disabled Vet from Iraq. For 3 weeks, he has been having severe PTSD issues. severe nightmares- screams at night. He lives in Killeen Texas near Fort Hood. His wife is very vile to him right. She has issues too on other matters and treats my son horribly at times. I do understand - he is a challenge. He lived with me when he got back from Iraq & it was a challenge. does any one have any feedback for me. I went to counseling to understand my son, but since he has been married - it was time to pass the baton. VA has not been helpful from what he says. I was told he needs medication and counseling. But he gets the meds but this episode is getting more and more danger. He was suicidal today - I talked him down. But the constant cycle of this self loathing and thinking everything is his fault. I live over nearly 2 hours away from him. Any feedback would be great!

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7/13/19 12:17 A

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Alice Dixie - I am so sorry for all of the pain that you have been through. Life seems to take so many detours and crazy things are always ahead. I have been through a couple of psych's through the years and therapists. I never discussed my problems until I saw a therapist and learned to open up. Just talking things out with an objective listener helps so much. I do take a sleeping pill often too. Otherwise, I lie in bed remembering so much about the hardships of my past. Thinking of you and wishing you peace.

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7/12/19 9:19 A

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ALICEDIXIE emoticon you have been through so much! I am glad you reconnected with your friend and you two were able to help each other and find love together!! Anxiety is something I struggle with a lot too, I see a therapist and a psychiatrist, but I have other diagnosis as well. I've been through more than I'm willing to share on here other than what I did below. But if you ever need someone to talk to, or want to know some good books or other things that help with anxiety, just send me a Sparkmail (that goes for everyone! I have been reading some amazing books my therapist has either loaned me or suggested for me and they have really helped). I'm not on much this week as we are on vacation, I just happened to see the email this morning to respond to this thread so I did. I'll be back on next week daily again, though not for as long as I usually am, I'm trying to cut down on my time on the computer.

Cheering you on, and remember I'm here for you all, if ever you need someone to chat with!!

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7/7/19 11:00 A

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I have had 2 doctors tell me I have PTSD. I had an alcoholic father who was extremely verbally abusive. My first husband killed my dog and verbally abused me also. My 2nd husband left me for a 38 yr old criminal after over 35 yrs of marriage. He was cleaning out our bank accounts for 3 yrs before I caught on. I trusted him. I believe he and the girlfriend had plotted to make me disappear when they ran out of money and all that was left was my insurance money to collect. Never could prove this. My daughter and her husband took me in and saved my life.

I reconnected with a friend from 7th grade that I had not seen for over 50 yrs. He had lost his wife through cancer 4 yrs before. We helped each other get through these tough times. We are married now and life in an apartment in my daughter's home. I have my first grandchild who is going to be 4. God is always going to give you something better than was taken from you.

However, I struggle with anxiety. I take a sleeping pill some night so I can sleep, but nothing else. I go to church on a regular basis and this helps a lot. I try taking one day at a time and focus on all the good things I now have. I am also alive!

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6/29/19 4:07 P

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Thank you, Karri, and I'm so sorry for all that you went through!! The wedding is Feb 29, 2020. I am talking to my priest for counseling - for a specific reason.

I get ante-partum depression (depression while pregnant). The last pregnancy's was so bad that I was put on medication. Well, as most of us know, you have to wean off that stuff. I was at the end of my weaning period when the ex put us through Child Protective Services hell. In the end it was ruled false allegations BUT so much damage was done. This includes the children being taken away initially because the social worker said I had severe postpartum depression simply because she saw my depression meds. I literally had to open all of my sessions with my therapist up to the court to prove it was ante-partum depression. A note from my doctor was not enough (I'm sure my ex had something to do with that if his lawyer who risked being disbarred to tell me is to be believed). So, from that point forward I swore I would never be put in a position like that again. Two more years and I can begin to see a professional again if needed. Until then, a priest within the confines of confession is how I get my counseling.

I've never considered an anxiety attack as a possibility before. Of course, I've not been to a professional in 16 years or I might already know. I'll start looking into that and what types of things I can do or take (herbally) for that and see if that helps. Thank you for the suggestion.

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6/15/19 7:52 P

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First of all, Mimmy, emoticon to the team, I think these are some great people for support and cheering each other on! I hope you do too.

Second, I had no idea our team was featured, that is so cool!

I'm so sorry to hear about what your ex-hubs did to you, and that your daughter does not believe you. When my father nearly killed me, it was all swept under the rug. He was a politician. I didn't know any better at the time, but the social workers didn't take pictures, measure bruises, get me medical attention, nothing. I was sent to live with my oldest sister and when all of the bruising was gone, I was sent right back. Only my closest friends new, one of my friends was the one to call DHS. They were going to send me to stay with her parents until they found out who my father was. Even my other siblings, who no longer lived at home, were told I just wanted to live with my sister for a while.

It really hurts when those we love don't believe us. I hope one day she will.

As far as having to sit in the same room with him and the physical effects you are having... are you possibly having an anxiety attack? Have you spoken with a professional? If that is not something you are wanting to do, I find that wearing an essential oil diffuser necklace of a soothing scent helps, or if you want something to help focus your mind, peppermint helps with that. When I was in the military and could not get out of meetings I learned how to count to 100 in Japanese and would focus on that if my attention was not needed on the task at hand.

How long do you have till the wedding?

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Welcome to the team. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I agree with the others and therapy is so beneficial. Learning coping skills has helped me so much. Best wishes to you as you are going through this journey.

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Welcome to the team! Sorry that you've experienced trauma and need the team. However, I am glad that you've found us. Unfortunately there are no time constraints on PTSD and your reactions. I've been in therapy for years, and most people don't even know that I have any issues. On the day-to-day, I'm usually well. Lately, however, that has not been the case. I sometimes feel that I should be beyond all of this. I can see the changes that I've made, and how far I have come. I'm now a certified peer specialist and help other people with mental challenges. It's very rewarding work, but I've only been at it for a few weeks. I've already run into someone with a similar trauma. It triggered me, so I've been having a difficult week. For me, it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you're not already in therapy, I would suggest it. It has helped me immensely.

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Welcome. You are in the right place

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Hi all, I'm new to the board but not the forums. This board was being featured or I'd have never found it. Loooooooong story short...

My first husband tried to kill me. He was a military police officer so I could never get anyone to take my statement or get charges brought. We had children together so I had to see him several times a year. He was able to take my children away from me. Through two mutual friends, at two different bases, I discovered he was telling everyone that I was into drugs and lived in the equivalent of a crack house (I've never even tried drugs and lived in a nice neighborhood). I evened the playing field by not only joining the military (different branch) but joined the thin blue line so he could never pull anything on me like he did before. My husband now took over the meeting duties so that I didn't have to see him and took all the phone calls so I didn't have to speak to him.

Even though I **know** he can't hurt me any longer, I still to this day have the physical reactions of accelerated heart rate, jelly knees, short of breath, and general paralyzation. I feel like after 20+ years this part should be gone as well which just plain upsets me. While I don't like the guy and would prefer to never see him again. He never tried anything after I was on equal footing - both militarily and law enforcement wise. He can't hurt me physically and our children are grown adults. Why can't my body catch up to my brain?

Fast forward: our daughter is getting married. We will all be at the wedding together. My daughter doesn't believe me about her father (I wasn't the one that initially spoke to her about it - someone else did when she couldn't understand why I would never speak to him). So due to her unbelief she expects a lot of things at this wedding that I've said (and hubby telling her separately) simply isn't going to happen. Thankfully, while she still doesn't believe me, she has abandoned all the things she wanted me and him to do together. However, I still have to get through being in the same room with him for a couple of hours for rehearsal dinner and then half the day for the wedding. Not to mention be in close proximity for the wedding party line up and sitting in the same row for the wedding - because she doesn't believe me she won't change certain things. (Our other child did without explaining why he wanted things the way he did.)

Thankfully, hubs knows. And the rest of the children believe it. So, hubby will be there holding my hand the ENTIRE time without worry that one of the girls will want to dance with daddy. It's the only thing that helps stave off the physical reactions. There are no mental reactions other than being upset that I can't control my physical body. I want to enjoy the wedding not sit shaking and unable to get up.

So that's why I'm here. I'm hoping to glean some helpful nuggets in managing my seemingly uncontrollable physical reactions.

~Mimmy~
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