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9/14/18 9:19 P

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TAKINGBACKLIFE I hope you are doing better, it is very had when you are alone with out your partner who you expected to be with much longer


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10/1/17 1:02 A

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TAKINGBACKLIFE, you just described what I am feeling and how I felt when my husband pass in 2013. I too thought that I would grow old with him and that I would also go before him since I was the sick one. He had two cancers but it was the chemo that killed him. I was in my early 50's when he passed. Like your husband he was strong and very active in doing things. Life does suck with out him and it is like a part of you missing.

All I can say is one day at a time and sometimes it is one minute at a time too.


If you tell God no because He won't explain the reason He wants you to do something, you are actually hindering His blessing. But when you say yes to Him, all of heaven opens to pour out His goodness and reward your obedience. What matters more than material blessings are the things He is teaching us in our spirit.
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9/30/17 5:09 P

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My heart goes out to you on the loss of your dear husband so prematurely. The depth of pain is a reflection of the depth of love. Grief comes in waves. There are triggers that we are not aware of until it happens.

I would encourage you to start taking care of yourself. Your son needs your support now more than ever. Someday there will be grandkids and you can shares stories about your DH. Also as you take control over one aspect of your life it boosts the confidence. Usually it helps starting with small goals--drinking more water or eliminating sodas or walking a short distance.

It is hard to know what life holds for you.

Do feel free to speak out here. Most communicate on the chat thread. I know you are welcome. Loss does not discriminate based on age.

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9/30/17 3:42 P

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Hello everyone. In February, I lost my husband of close to 18 years. It has been difficult dealing with the fact that he is not simply at work. I am 43 years old. I never thought in a million years that I would have lost my World's Greatest Man. He was always strong and active and healthy.
Needless, to say, that when they said his backache was Stage 4 colon cancer that spread everywhere -- we were shocked and devastated.

I always have had 1 health issue or another, so I always assumed that he would outlive me, so I never worried or thought about what life would be like without him. Life without him just plain sucks for lack of words. We have a 15 year old son.

He is my reason for living now. (he was before, but I had more to be happy about in life when my husband was in it with me). It is hard trying to keep going, doing the best I can one day at a time. I have had things to smile about and things to look forward to. I have made small changes in my house....

But I am still miserable when you step back and look at the big picture.
I haven't been taking care of myself at all. And it shows! Not only am I extremely heavy, but I just feel awful all the time! I ache, I get muscle spasms, I have what I call "fat-related" asthma....

I don't like the way I feel mentally and physically. I also have this sad feeling knowing that if I live to be 63 or older -- than that means I will have outlived the same amount of time that I had with my husband on earth. Sorry if that doesn't make sense.

I always thought we would get old and spend our empty nest years together doing things. But when my son heads off to college, it will be just me in the house, along with my puppydog.

It is strange how empty a house can feel when those who should be here aren't anymore.

Sorry to ramble on. It has been a long time since I have been on SP and just wanted to let some of what I was feeling out.

Hope it is OK that I am not really a senior. I did not see any widow groups for middle-ages.

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