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5/30/13 12:53 A

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A big congratulations to you Cathleen, I hope that it continues to work for you. I am in my deadline-anxiety week, very uncomfortable. Too much to do and no energy to plan ahead.

I do agree that being with myself only seems to make things worse. At the same time I feel that I need to get away and rest when I am done for the day.


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I found I have a bigger problem with self-sabotage when I'm isolated. When I'm around people with similar goals, habits, beliefs, values, etc., I'm less likely to slip into destructive behavior. I guess that's part of sticking with the winners. We all rise to the occasion and get strength from each other.

The promises do come true if we work for them. I've always had trouble with being patient with God's time. I can't count the number of times someone said to me, "Don't quit a minute before the miracle occurs."

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God WILL remove your character defects, but in His good time. We do our part, One Day At A Time, and God will do His. It's a promise of the program, and it ALWAYS comes true.

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Thanks y'all for your support! I've been working the 1st step and the serenity prayer (acceptance of my alcoholism) one day at a time. I can't allow myself to think I can never drink again. My disease still lies to me and I still struggle with accepting that I just can't have one drink.

I pray in the morning for strength to stay sober that day...thank God at night for another day of sobriety...go to at least 1 online AA meeting a day...say the serenity prayer often. I read the 1st step in the BB and am reading the 1st step in the 12X12. I also do devotions in the morning out of the 24 Hours a Day book.

I've been thinking about a drink the last couple of days. I tend to want to selfsabotage. Don't know why I do that. I'm that way as far a Spark goes too. My most dangerous time is when things are going good. That's when I tend to drink and fall off the SparkWagon with exercise usually. Once I start feeling good about where I am, I sabotage it by drinking, overeating, or not exercising I swear so that I can feel bad about myself and like a failure. I THINK I want to be successful, but then when I am, I mess it up.

I think it goes back to my mother when I was always made to feel like a failure. I'm used to it and I think success doesn't feel comfortable for me. Also, success is hard work and I'm still lazy, one of my big character defects; that and self-ceneteredness. Will God actually REMOVE these these character defects? I can' wait. Neither can my husband, I'm sure!
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Good thing about sobriety chips is that they are calories free! Keep sharing your progress. I love to hear about it.

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5/28/13 10:12 A

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Congrats Cathleen!! Have a Virtual Chip!

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emoticon Cathleen!

I love sobriety celebrations. Congratulations on your 30 days!

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Since y'all have been with me since before I got sober, I thought I'd celebrate my 30 days sober with you! I couldn't have made it without God, AA, and without you to talk to.. I broke out my 30 day AA chip and rewarded myself! Off to my 2nd meeting of the day.


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I'm like you Nell. Everything looks neat and tidy until you look in closets or cupboards. I do go through streaks of tidying and decluttering those too and it does make me feel better. I thinks this is kind of like my personality too.

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I have always been one of those people who is always picking stuff up and putting it away. My mother was (still is) a clutterer and I always hated the disorder of it. My closets, on the other hand.........

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My prayers are with you, MeddyPeddy! Yesterday I took steps to reduce some of the clutter here. I'm trying to learn the skills necessary to maintain an uncluttered home -- my normal practice of waiting until the mess gets out of hand before tackling it doesn't work.

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5/27/13 1:16 A

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stress is creeping on, will try to discipline my thoughts and stay away from worry


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It's cold again here today. Hubby just left to go to the health club (it's the only exercise he gets now that he doesn't do a blessed thing around the house anymore) so I can run the vacuum. He doesn't like me to do anything that makes noise when he is home.

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5/26/13 2:10 A

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Our winter this year was longer than usual, but in a couple of week spring has arrived and gone and it feels as already summer. Everything is amazingly green and my lawn outgrows me - the lawn mower is broken...


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5/24/13 3:06 P

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I love your story Nell. My HP often manifests itself in nature. I see deer often as there is a deer trail through my neighborhood and my dog and I just stop and watch as they cross the street. But a baby one just arrived! What a gift.

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Thanks for the beautiful share. I have been watching the baby geese grow the past few weeks - they grow fast and will be flying soon.

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I had the most amazing experience this morning. We had our spring a/c check, and the tech told me there was a new fawn curled up right outside my porch window. I went out and it was so tiny! It had to have been born last night because it wasn't there when I closed the windows before going to bed. I had run a deer off this morning not knowing (I am always running deer off) not knowing there was a new baby. I turned off the porch lights and left the room hoping that Mama was watching and would come get the baby. I went back an hour later and it was gone.

It was luck that I was having the ac serviced this morning and that the tech noticed. I never would have, tucked up by the wall below the window like that. I am so grateful to have seen it. I so wish my father were alive to know. He'd have been thrilled.

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Went to a great 3rd Step meeting this morning and I mentioned Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where Harrison Ford had to take the leap of faith. I am seeing how many times a day I have to take the leap - it is like jumping from rock to rock to cross a river sometimes. The moving walk way is broken and there are no steps in the woods...have to trust in my HP and keep moving forward...

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I remember being told that Prayer 101 is gratitude.

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5/23/13 12:58 A

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Iīm happy to hear about your days of sobriety Cathleen emoticon


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It sounds like you're in a good place, Cathleen! I wish you all the best.

I appreciate your posts. It's a good reminder that I need to step back and recognize my gratitude for the life I have now.

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emoticon STARCHILDE. My day has been wonderful, too. emoticon Any day sober is a wonderful day! I know it's been awhile since I've posted on this thread. Things have been going well for me. My husband got out of jail with time served (49 days) in March. No more incidents or even close to it. My sobriety has helped a lot. Today is my 23rd day sober! NO MORE emoticon I'm doing well not drinking and taking my Depakote emoticon as prescribed. My depression has lifted emoticon and I'm more than thrilled! emoticon I'm still working at losing the 14 pounds I gained when my doctor increased my meds emoticon , but I haven't let the weight gain get me down. I'm much happier and healthier than I was when I was on half the dose. I started the 5K Your Way Walk/Jog program emoticon and am enjoying my workouts much more. I finally feel like I'm "working". It feels good to sweat emoticon . I didn't get to walk/jog last week due to rain here in deep, south Texas, so I tried a new cardio video that I really enjoyed emoticon . Even worked out on my rest days! emoticon I'm still involved in the "Unglued" bible study. emoticon In fact, I finished up chapter 10 and its questions this morning emoticon . I find it helpful to be in a bible study group because I often have difficulty following through on things. My husband and I tried a new church emoticon yesterday that he heard about in jail. It was his idea to go. Praise God! He said he was gonna go with or without me! "Without me" never entered my mind! emoticon We both liked it and have made a commitment to go on Wednesday for a bible study where we apply what we're learning. It starts with prayer emoticon , followed by dinner emoticon , ending with the bible study. emoticon We're making an evening of it. We've decided to give it a fair chance and try it for 3 months. Church is something I need in my life and I'm happy my husband feels the same way. I'm still going to AAOnline and feeling right at home.I

So, all in all, everything's great. I hope everyone is doing well. I've missed you. Praying for God's perfect will to be done in our lives gave me peace even amidst the storm. It's the best prayer I can think of.


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I agree, MeddyPeddy! It's good to be reminded of those early days. I'm grateful today is different.

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Welcome RIk and good luck starchild!

I am grateful that I donīt have to do "day one" with alcohol and also grateful to be reminded that eight years away from alcohol had made my life a lot easier.


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One day at a time, we can stay sober together.

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Let's make it a great, sober day!

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Day one sober, almost over.

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Every sober minute is a success. We are pulling for you. Keep coming back.

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Thanks everyone!

Happy to be here!
Thanks for the support.
One minute, hour, and day at a time for me.


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Wishing you all another sober day! Good to see you again today, Rik.

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Good to see you here,Rik!

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Hi Everyone!

I am just checking in.

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Oh, Meddy. You sound so much like me. It makes me smile reading your posts.

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Yes, it is patience, patience and patience again I need to practice...


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But over time, Meddy, it gets done,one little checked off chore at a time.

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The energy that is released from decluttering is amazing - unfortunately my body hurts so much I canīt do all the things I have the energy for....


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There is some vague fear that somebody will come and accuse me of not aying that bill and then I will find that copy and show them... not very likely emoticon It is an unconcious respect and fear of authorities maybe. I am asking for more and more bills to be sent digital which means that I donīt have a paper copy and it is kind of scary to trust that the internet world will provide that information if I ever need it.



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I remember helping my Grandmother clean out drawers before she moved in with my mother. There were decades of bills all neatly filed in drawers. We got rid of all but the past years' ones. Most of my bills are paperless, and I only keep a few month's worth of the paper ones. I do keep receipts for anything that has a warranty, and I keep tax returns for the mandatory period. I am not sure why my Grandmother felt it necessary to keep all that stuff, but it certainly showed me that I don't need all that clutter.

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It's funny that I'm so reluctant to throw away some old bills. Especially, now that many companies have "paperless" billing. Initially, I was so reluctant to pay bills online, now I find it's really simplified my life. Or maybe it's just having a steady job with a regular income that's simplified my life.

I guess it's really recovery and all that comes with it that has simplified my life.

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I used to save my paid bills, but last year our county started having "shred days" where we could bring boxes for shredding. I cleared out 25 years worth of old papers. I'd forgotten that American Express used to return the carbons (remember credit card carbons?) in their bills. Funny to see how antique a process looks that really wasn't all that long ago.

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Organised papers yesterday - it took all day withbreaks for biking with dog, phone calls and eating. Asked the people I was on the phone with how they organised theis economy and got various answers – most poeple seem to have something siilar to an "unpaid" and a "paid" box where they put their bills. My question was how long they saved their paid bills and it seems thay people are scared to thorow them away - they store them in the attic for ever and ever...




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Interesting - I do not experience "sugar addiction" as eating sugar does not trigger any of the reactions I have heard alcoholics tell about.

Alcoholism _ I have never expereinced any reactions to withdrawal of alcohol and I usually say that I am not a "biological" alcoholic - that is, I can take communion or use a cough medicine with alcohol in it without getting triggered – but I canīt have a drink or a glass of wine without triggering the mechanism "I can drink like every other person". Maybe I could. But I donīt want to test it...

AND the thing alcoholics describe about trying to stop drinking is what I experience around food, all the "never more", the feeling of guilt and shame, the totally overheated brain when I have eaten out of plan. It is in the brain and it is totally sick. It is diagnosed as a "disorder" and it is killing me....


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You're a brave woman, MeddyPeddy. You remind me of the quote: "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather, the judgement that something is more important than fear." ~ James Neil Hollingworth

Nell, I appreciate your thoughts about the difference between cravings and addiction. My alcoholism and drug addiction are distinctly different from my issues with food.
I don't know anyone who has been able to go from addiction to moderate usage of alcohol. I'm not even interested in trying that



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Meddy-I am proud of you for taking that songwriting course. Most people dream of doing things they are interested in but never act on those dreams. I also have a lot of ghost emotions, long standing reactions and feelings that refuse to leave me. All I can do is know they occur and try and get past them.

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On another thread we were discussing Kessler's book "The End Of Overeating". It is about "craving", which too many people translate as "addiction". The two are different. I don't buy into sugar as an addiction, sure it surely is craving, something that can be developed into a big market share for food manufacturers. But addiction? All humans will have sugar lows where we shake until we eat. It's called hunger. But is that really withdrawal? I remember withdrawal from alcohol, the tics and tremors, the DTs. I have never endured that with sugar. With alcohol, I had to drink more and more in order to control the withdrawal symptoms, but never with sugar. I may WANT a lot of sugar, but my body won't go into withdrawal because it needs two candy bars instead of one.

I described alcohol withdrawal, and said that once the drug (alcohol) is removed, I cannot have it again without triggering the same addiction reaction as before. One woman said that she knows many alcoholics who can now drink safely. Really? I've been around the addiction community for a very long time and I have never met one, heard of one, read of one. I've heard many people who WANTED to be like that, but it never turns out well. The idea that we can drink again safely is exactly what too many alcoholics want to believe.

I got sober in 1977, just in time for the Rand Report to be released. The Rand Group did a big study on alcoholics, and their findings were that many could drink again and were doing so safely. I had to have all the older AAs tell me that it just wasn't true. About 25 years later , someone went back to follow up on the study results. It turned out that all those "able to drink again safely" were either dead of alcoholism or back in AA.

Alcoholism is a disease. Diabetes is a disease. Sugar craving is a problem. A big one, for sure, but not a true addiction. I guess only those of us who have endured a true addiction can know the difference.

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It is early monday morning and I have two big hurdles this week - it is edition week and I have a lecture in Stockholm tomorrow. I am (as usual) not as prepared as I could have been, I spent yesterday doing my essay for the songwritingcourse instead of working with the paper...


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Thanks Nell - I do agree and believe in focusing on the right things and my "bad" thoughts helps me to understand why people dont dare to change. I have during my lifetime done a lot of "New" things, changed jobs, becoming self-employed. becoming a public speaker, entering educations totally new and unknown - and I have learned to recognize that rather horrible feeling of deficiency when I donīt know, arenīt skilled enough, meet unexpected difficulties.

My fetaure of not thinking that much aobut things before I enter serves me well. I read once about a circus camp that was to be held in our little town during a week in the summer - and it was "first come first served" the first to register would get the avaiable places. I hurried to register and was really happy to be acdepted and it was not until the first day of that camp that I realised that there were no other 50-year old fat laides attending, all the others were children except for som young men that was really skilled jugglers and wanted to move on.

The children looked a little puzzled, I felt really stupid for a while but hang in there and after a while everybody had forgotten that I was "different", I chose not to paticipate in he acrobatic parts but stuck to juggling... and it was all a good experience. When I entered this songwriting course I did think in advance that I would probably be the only old woman there but that didnīt really matter - and it has not for most of the time. I do really want to learn and I have learned a lot, but I do have these early planted emotions that I am a failure and it is hard to keep them away all the time. I am getting good at letting them pass but I do have to admit them

I do like the comparision of a practical mantra and a spiritual - I think I will put together some of those to use when fear strucks...


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5/4/13 9:55 A

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Meddy, many years ago when I was a kid at YMCA camp, I tried waterskiing. I kept falling when the line went slack, as it always does in even slightly choppy water. The instructor told me to pull the slack in over my head, but I didn't think about it until I was down. Finally he told me to say the words: "Pull the slack in over my head, pull the slack in over my head" the whole time. And it worked. I remembered in time to pull the slack in over my head, and I stayed up the whole time. That little lesson is part of my life now: when I am in traffic and start to fume, I'll just say "It will be over at some point" over and over. It's both a reminder and a calmer. I heard a Jesuit speaker in AA one time who told us that many religious traditions have repetitive prayer (the rosary, the prayer wheel) for a reason: it keeps the mind focused on something important, while easing anxiety. If nothing else, I feel like I'm doing SOMETHING toward a nebulous goal. Many religions light candles as part of a prayer. What on earth does lighting a candle have to do with solving a problem? I have no idea, but it sure feels like I'm doing something.

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5/4/13 1:39 A

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I am only there to have fun and learn interesting stuff - and I do! Surprisingly enough I have learned a lot that can be applied in my journalistic writing and in writing for the theatre - I did notexpect taht.

This is not about logic or reality - these are brain ghosts that occurs and I know that they are but that does not stop them from hurting. But you know, when you tell me that I ought to feel otherwise I feel even smaller... these are feelings that I hesitate to put words to because I know that they are "silly" and I am not acting on them - I try to let them pass though and disappear...


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I often used to feel guilty for not being good at something I admire others for. For example, my sponsor is a superb quilter and I admire her handiwork greatly. I used to (and sometimes still do until I remind myself) feel that I am lacking somehow because I don't know how to quilt. I know now that we all have our talents. I can't quilt but I don't really want to know how. But I can play the guitar and she can't and doesn't want to learn. Don't ever compare yourself to what others do. Be proud of yourself for doing whatever it is you do, for example, playing guitar or taking a songwriting course.

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5/3/13 8:45 A

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Meddy, what is your goal in taking that songwriting course? Is it learn something or impress others? I love cooking, but I am hardly the best cook I know, and will never be recognized as a great chef. My father was photography hobbyist. His photos would never win awards, but he sure did enjoy it. Unless you are looking to make a career out of songwriting, where the opinions of others do indeed count, you're there for the enjoyment of being better at songwriting than you were last year.

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There is also a quote that is somethig like "you should not worry over what people are speaking about you if you knew how seldom they do it"

Today I am small and without value again – I was at my songwriting course yesterday and feeling fine when I suddenly started to compare myself with the others and felt really out of place. I should be prous that i get outside my comfort zone and try new things but I feel like I am a disturbance and f no use to others.


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That's so true about secrets, Nell! While I may have hidden my actual drinking, everyone could see my erratic behavior and my misery.

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Funny thing about secrets: so many aren't as secret as we think. That denial and protectiveness that we build around so many of our secrets also obscure the idea that others see them, too.

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My hope for less people was in vain – we were about twenty and as there were two newcomers we did the first step. What I noticed was that what many of my AA-friends says about alcohol, I could say about food. The repeated promises "never more" the shame of failing etc. And of course I notice that they say that they could not get sober until they gave up their own ideas about how to remain sober and started to follow the AA program.

The daily reflections also hit - it said that recovery canīt begin until the deeper secrets are revealed. I still have secrets. I have revealed all secrets many times but I start to build new ones - and even when I donīt I feel as if I do because I feel alienated from other people. The only times when all secrets are gone is when I am totally crushed. I seems that as soon as I start rebuilding myself I also start keeping secrets... which should make me one of those people we read about in the beginning of every meeting chapter five "there are such unfortunate people who canīt be honest.



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I, too, have a healthy respect for food, or at least what it does to me. It's more my own attitude that can be cunning, baffling and powerful. There is a pretty long list of foods that are like alcohol to me: I cannot have just one. If I try I have to deal with that terrible obsession, so I just don't do it. I can't even let myself smell Cheetos. Or potato chips. Or Reeses. Just like with drinking, friends will say "Just one won't hurt, don't you have any willpower?" Well, no, so I don't start. That takes less willpower than an abiding knowledge that certain foods will take me down.

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I understand your frustration with losing weight, Meddy. I finally had to admit that I am powerless over food and that I have to give it the respect I give alcohol. I have to eat to live, but I also have to remember that food is cunning, baffling and powerful, and I have to always beware of my emotions.

My home group is visited most weeks by inmates from a minimum security prison and thay are always a welcome addition. I do enjoy smaller meetings, too. My home group is never small, so I go to another meeting during the week that typically has 12-20 people attending.

I love May. There is such hope here with the leaves springing forth, crocuses blooming and the orchestra of robins early in the morning.

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A new month and new possibilities. Thanks everybody for your concern about my feet. No I have not been consulting any doctor, I am rather sure what the solution would be - lose weight and get insole... anjd for the later I have no respect for octorīs knowledge - the write a...referral? to an orthopedic shop that maks insoles that might work and might not... as long as I carry this overweight they will not look for other soultions.... and of course I should not assume that but I did visit doctors just after the cancer treatment as I had the same aches then and the answers were - lose weight and get insoles....

My cousin lost about 40 kilos swith one of those nutrition replacement method - I think it was cambridge. She said that the best difference was that she could walk without pain...

I will visit a lunch meeting today in the hope that there will not be too many eople, it is a holiday and the people we have that comes because they are attending the open treatment my commune offers, usually donīt come on holidays... and I love that they are coming and I love that they continue after treatment and stay sober but now and then I also love to be in a smaller group.


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