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While I have tended to be optimistic, my optimism sometimes gets weighed down by the stress in my life.

Getting that positive outlook back can be challenging at times. I found a couple of simple tools that help me find my sunny side when it has slipped.

I smile and wave. Sounds silly, but it isn't.
I found that we humans are conditioned, from the time we are small, to wave when someone waves at us. Remember "wave bye-bye"?
Sure, some folks wont wave back, but it takes a conscience effort not to. They have to think about not waving and looking away.

So what does it do for me? A couple of things. First, just smiling helps me feel better. I mean a real smile, not just the one that moves your mouth. My teeth show; my wrinkles deepen; I look at the face of the person I'm smiling at. Second, waving feels like I am acknowledging the other person's existence. Like saying, "I see you in my world." It is making a connection with someone you don't know. When the person smiles and/or waves back, I get tiny happiness bubbles inside. I have made a positive difference in someone else's world. That may be the only smile or wave they receive today. I might be the only person who has "seen" them today. Even though I may never know, it feels really good.
So what about the person who doesn't smile or wave back? What does that do for me? Well, knowing that they have chosen not to respond to my simple kindness gives me a giggle inside. I have triggered their brain. They may be thinking, "Who is that weirdo?", or "Do I know her?" No matter what they are thinking, I am in their head. And for a moment or two, they aren't thinking about the stress in their life. So I have done some good.
I started doing the "smile and wave" routine while I was working; anytime I was outside on a break. Since I retired, I spend time on my porch, looking at the view and smiling and waving at folks who go by. My spouse used to say, "Who is that?" To which I reply, "I don't know. But it doesn't matter." Now, he just smiles and waves with me.

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  • CD14145254
    Spreading free happiness with everyone who is blessed enough to cross paths today. I love the idea and will gladly join in the blessings. Thanks for sharing. - by CD14145254
  • My brother and I give names to people when we smile and wave. It gives us a giggle that only we share. No I don't know their name but... She looks like Theresa, or Sandy. Sometimes we even go as far as to make a short back story for why they are in this place at this time. Smiles for everyone us and them. emoticon - by SUNSHNMAMA
  • "They may be thinking, "Who is that weirdo?", or "Do I know her?" No matter what they are thinking, I am in their head. And for a moment or two, they aren't thinking about the stress in their life. So I have done some good." emoticon Tickled my fancy! I just love, "My spouse used to say, "Who is that?" To which I reply, "I don't know. But it doesn't matter." Now, he just smiles and waves with me." Very cool! emoticon - by TRIMNUP

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