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ROTTEN DAY!

Thursday, April 02, 2009

Today needs to END soon I hope! I got in my car to come home decided to give Laurie a call to see how she's done today since she's at her own home now emoticonand she was laying on the couch reading a book. Well I asked how her day had gone, she tells me that she'd called Mother to take her to Fred Meyer for a few things and on the way Mother told her that "She ought to be making some final arrangements since funerals don't come cheap and are expensive". Well Laurie asked her if she was dying and she knew something that Laurie didn't know, of course then the back peddling began quickly. Seems Mother is concerned get this one...about WHO is going to pay for Laurie to be taken care when the time comes it's expensive you know! So here's Laurie trying to recover from all this surgery doing all she can to get well and this bomb is dropped on her in a very less then compassionate manner on the way to the store. So Laurie is crying, upset and asked me if she was going to die in the next couple of months. I repeated to her EXACTLY what the DR had told me, now keep in mind I am the ONLY one in the family who has talked to the DR directly during the surgery she spent about 20 minutes with me. She doesn't know anymore then anyone else she told me could be 3 months, six months or a year no one knows, what she DID tell me is that she couldn't get all of the cancer so Laurie still has cancer and the ONLY thing I didn't repeat to Laurie that she said was that the cancer will get her eventually! But for Laurie sake it's important that she fight to get well and take that round of chemo and continue fighting til she can't fight anymore, so WHY would a mother say something so painful to a child who's been through what Laurie's been through like that? My guess is that she's ONLY concerned about WHO will need to bury her and write the check for it!! Sick I am so hopping mad I would like to strangle her except that I am NOT speaking to her. So I have assured Laurie that if and when the time comes I yes I will write the check to see to it that she gets her wishes done as she wants and I will be there to WRITE the check myself.
I am so upset with Mother for doing this to Laurie I think this says it all So when I got home I preceeded to unload all of my conversation with Laurie to Rich and he was absolutely fuming and after we talked he walked in my office and said " I will be back" so my guess is he's gone one of two places and he's not happy about what happened today, he's either going to confront Mother or to see my brother Duke who is a gossiping old hen and thinks anything and everything Mother does is ok cause she's old you know so it's ok. Well this sort of thing is NOT ok and Laurie only has us to fight for her.
Ok enough of that. Families can be a true pain in the backside!
On another note I made an appointment today to get my hair highlighted on Saturday for this summer and I am so excited to do that, something to look forward to that's happy!! Then I am going to go buy something bright and spring looking colored for Uncle BJ's memorial I will NOT wear BLACK AND WHITE as I want something HAPPY and colorful like he was. So Saturday will be a day of fun!!
What would I ever do without you guys to listen to my tales of woooo!!
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  • DEUCE119
    Boy , what a day you had. Doesn't make you wonder where Mothers like that come from? I can see being truthful , but she also has to have hope. Brutal honesty won't take her very far. That is one reason I think doctors don't like to give timelines. You are there and hopefully Laurie will take the hope you have tried to give her and ignore the woman who gave birth. Hugs to you and Laurie! emoticon
    4458 days ago
  • MARLA7
    Cheryl - So sorry Laurie had to go through that with your Mom. I don't understand what makes some folks tick. It does sound like it's all about the money to your Mother. How cold & cruel can you get??? Geez. Prayers going out from Ohio to Washington for all of you. Love you, Marla
    4458 days ago
  • DIANEV5
    Cheryl no wonder you dont talk to your mother shes a witch your poor sister as if she dosent have enough on her plate .I hope what you told her helped make her feel better ((HUGS))I hope your hair comes out beautiful emoticon
    4458 days ago
  • MAURIZIA
    Cheryl, my friend. emoticon emoticon

    I am so sorry to read about what your mom said to Laurie. Half the battle is Laurie's attitude! And call me crazy, but who knows, there may be a miracle out there for her with all of us praying for her!

    GO, RICH! I hope he reams your mom out! So there! He knows how to use this bat!!
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    Love, Mauri
    4459 days ago
  • KSNICKER
    Oh Cheryl - You are right... What a rotten day you had... Well that is all over now so Poof and Let it go my friend... mom will get hers in the end... Laurie is so lucky to have you and Rich beside her through all this... What a wonderful sister you are... ((hugs)) Hope you can rest tonight...

    ((hugs))

    Kathy
    4459 days ago
  • BUFFALOGAL1952
    Cheryl, so sorry that your sister has that to deal with on top of all she is going thru. My heart goes out to her. I think you are doing a wonderful job of supporting Laurie when I am sure your heart is breaking and all you want to do is cry at the injustice of something bad happening to such a good person. My prayers continue to go out to you and Laurie. Hugs to you Cheryl.
    Claudia
    4459 days ago
  • MAMASALLYSOCKS
    ((((cow cuddles))))
    4459 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2244567
    CHERYL WOW NOT A GOOD THING! LET US KNOW WHAT RICH DID OR SAID!WELL BREATHE MY FRIEND BREATHE!SOMETIME YOU JUST CAN'T CHANGE WHAT STUPID THINGS PEOPLE DO OR SAY!LAURIE KNOWS NOW YOU HAVE TOLD HER AND THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS!AND SO VERY NICE OF YOU TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS!MAKE SURE LAURIE HAS EVERYTHING WRITTEN DOWN AS TO WHAT SHE WANTS OR A VIDEO MADE! emoticon MY FRIEND AND HOPE THINGS DON'T GET ANY WORSE THAN THEY ALREADY ARE!CHERYL YOU UNLOAD ANY TIME YOU NEED TO WE ALL DO AND YOU WON'T HAVE TO FIND OUT WHAT IT WOULD BE WITHOUT ME YOU ARE STUCK WITH ME I AM AFRAID!LOVE YA G/F,CHAR
    4459 days ago
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