Friday, April 17, 2009
Today is going to be a full day of memories for most of the family coming to visit. Uncle BJ was such an important part of this Overlie family and they are really a close bunch even though they do not all live right here he was the glue that seemed to bring it all together for almost every occassion and it always centered at his home around him so his absence will be quite noticed. I was thinking on my way to work this morning about how things should be so much easier since he's been gone since March 10th but somehow it isn't working that way for me at least. So as Mauri told me this morning go ahead and cry let the tears flow and hopefully they will mend the broken heart.
The feelings of losing Uncle BJ are so different then when we have lost other members of the family maybe because he was just such an important part of MY life where the others were important but I spent so much more time with him and learned so much more from him and just shared more of life with him. What a legend he was to so many in this family and what a wonderful example he was for us to follow, kindness should have been stamped on his forhead for that was so him, a perfect gentleman and I have never heard anyone ever say a bad word about him. What a nice thing for people to be able to say about how you lived your life I think. I remember taking him to a railroad convention one time and a nice looking middle aged man came up to him and said; " Bjarne you probably don't remember me but you made me the man I am today. You hired me when no one else would and gave me the training and skills to become someone." That conversation will forever be what he was about and I know this service tomorrow will be all about that sort of feelings.
The letting go process marches on for me...
Thank you all for your squeezes and hugs and I know you are there for me I just wanted to thank you all for listening.