Friends in trouble!
Thursday, July 09, 2009
It's been a very stressful and depressing afternoon for us. Rich and I went shopping for a handle for a hammer he wants to repair I know it would be so much easier and cheaper to just replace the hammer and buy a new one BUT this hammer is one that Rich's Dad gave him his first tool when he was a boy and it's sentimental for him so anyway we were going to every hardware store in town to get this handle when I got a phone message from Barbara my friend who WAS coming to stay a couple of days and she sounded like she was crying and upset so I said I needed to hurry home to call her on the landline as my battery was low. So once home I called her and I listened as she poured out her sad sad story to me in tears. Now Barbara is a College Professor of Math and Science so she's a very educated woman who teaches nursing students. Her husband Ken or Toad as we call him taught middle and high school history til a year ago when he retired. They have one son, Bryan who is alittle older then Chelsea. Bryan is a smart kid but somewhere he's lost his way, he opted NOT to finish college with all of less then a year left went to California and worked in a logging camp til they fired him and his Dad went down and moved him back home. Now Bryan has become dependent on alcohol, has recently gotten TWO DUI tickets and is a violent mess from the sounds of things. He is very bitter with the world and wants to die by the sounds of things. Yesterday Bryan's blood pressure got dangerously high so they literally had to drag him to the clinic and it's so high he's a candidate for a stroke as well as having an enlarged heart. That was the reason they cancelled coming up to visit us they live like 2 hours away in the middle of the state. Well she was so upset over all this she said she sat under her desk and sobbed for several hours and she's had to stay in her room since yesterday since he's been so angry with her all he does is yell and throw things so she's stayed in there and Toad has delt with Bryan and not well at that she said. My heart is breaking for this family and I know not what to do to help them. When I got off the phone with her I just couldn't help but think of how there are so many angry people in this world who make life so miserable for people around them and you just know it doesn't make them feel better by being such a miserable person.
I reassured Barbara that we would have those girl days soon as things settle down at their house and before she goes back to school this fall. I want so badly to help them through this and just don't know what to do to guide them. I do think she needs to contact some mental health agencies tomorrow and see what they suggest as we are so concerned that he just might go nuts and do something horrible.
As always I thank you for listening and letting me get this off my heart
I thank you for any and all suggestions
I thank you for your prayers for this troubled family
I thank you for being YOU!