I have a good friend whose mom I have known as long as I've known her. I also happen to know some pretty sordid details of this mom's recent past. Details she wishes NOBODY knew and I am one of a very few people who does. I have tried to treat her the same as I would treat anyone, in fact at my friend's request, I have gone out of my way to be extra kind so I wouldn't let on that I knew this stuff. So the other day this friend tells me, "My mom knows that you know about her. She said that she now knows why you've been so rude to her." That is TOTALLY laughable. She's just paranoid - point blank. So anyway, this past monday there was a horrible fire at a large meat packing plant just blocks from my home. The fire was so bad and the danger of ammonia fumes (very dangerous to nose, throat and especially lungs) and also danger of an ammonia explosion - that the mayor called a mandatory evacuation for anyone within a mile radius. So, I packed up me and the kids and the dogs and we went to this friend's house for the day to wait out the evacuation. She tells me that she was planning to go to lunch with her mom (oh, great!) and of course, I had to go with cuz I had no where else to go! It was completely uncomfortable and I know this woman totally dislikes me for what I know about her when all of a sudden she busts out with, "Sarah, I just have to tell you that you look really great. I can tell you've lost a lot of weight and you look really healthy and happy. How are you doing it?" Huh? My arch-nemesis is complementing me? lol. What in the world? Why do I tell all these details? I guess it's cuz I am still in shock that this woman who hasn't liked me for a couple years now (strange petty jealousy because her daughter would rather hang out with me) and likes me even LESS for what I know about her - notices such a change that she just HAS TO compliment me! Wow. I was really beginning to think I was just seeing these changes in the mirror out of wishful thinking! I mean, hubby, my mom and my two friends who know how hard I've been working have been the only ones to say anything about changes in how I look. I was starting to think that they only saw it cuz they had wishful thinking about my changes too!
Then comes Sunday morning at church. I was wearing this cute brown skirt that I haven't worn in like three years cuz it was tight and my stomach looked too big in it before. But it now looks much better! I also bought a new shirt on Saturday that was very flattering on me and looked awesome with the skirt. After church service I was talking to some friends when the pastor's wife, my friend Paula, came up to me and told me that I look really good and she can tell that I lost weight. THANK YOU!!! FINALLY!!! I guess I would have thought that these people who have known me for almost 6 years would have noticed a change as big as 40 pounds! I am glad Paula said something though. It kind of validated my hard work. Finally someone noticed! I mean, I know "the mom" noticed too, but I have a feeling my friend had mentioned something about how hard I was working out and stuff. But Paula, no one has said a word to her (I haven't told anyone at church except one family we are very close with) about how hard I've been working - so it felt like the first REAL compliment.
Anyway, I know that this stuff is kind of petty and maybe a little strange. But sometimes I think it's the little things that keep us going on this marathon... cuz some days it seems like the light at the end of the tunnel is sooooo far away.....
p.s. can't remember if I mentioned that my birthday was kind of crappy - well, it was. one card, no gift, and even my own sister totally forgot it was my birthday (still hasn't mentioned a word about it to me). I hadn't gotten a gift or card from DH, which isn't unusual - he doesn't do that kind of stuff EVER but it was just harder because I hadn't gotten anything from anyone... well, on Saturday he made it a birthday girl day. Called me BG (birthday girl) all day, took me to dinner at a nice restaurant and spared no expense (and made sure they didn't sing to me cuz he remembered how much I HATE that) - and he got me the aluminum water bottle I've been wanting! For those who are trying to eat clean, go organic and make healthy choices - do some research about plastic containers. I have stopped storing my filtered water in plastic (we have an awesome filtration system that we've added to our kitchen faucet) and I now store it in glass jars. Plastic containers (including water bottles) have chemicals and bad stuff (like how technical that is? lol) in them that leaches into your water. Getting your own filtration system and then storing it in glass and drinking it from glass or aluminum is the best way to go to avoid this. Here's a link so you can read about the dangers of plastic - and this isn't just about water bottles - it's anything that any food or drink is stored in. Educate yourself! www.greenfeet.net/newsle
So, here's me with my new water bottle! BTW - I mentioned it to hubby last week and he went out of his way to a store he never goes to and remembered the description! I am impressed!