Thursday, November 12, 2009
Here I am again sitting at my computer crying and trying to make some sense of the days events and pouring it out on yet another sad blog. Rich got a phone call late this afternoon from our neighbor Greg who is almost like a son to us telling him that his beautiful wife Monica our hairdresser has asked him to move out and wants a divorce she said she doesn't love him anymore! Now these kids are like family to us and they have four absolutely beautiful kids Josh 18, Jake 16 a junior in highschool, Kylan an adorable little 6th grader with the kindest heart I have ever seen and then little Kalei 3 years old. We are simply SICK needless to say. I am sure there simply has to be another man involved in all of this since it doesn't make sense to just say what she said without there being another person involved. Monica is a really pretty woman and many men would find her most attractive she is small, adorable and has a wonderful smile with a great personality that any man would find attractive. She also happens to work with another gal that is single and I am sure this has encouraged all of this as well. Greg is just one of the nicest guys you could meet he is all about his family, funny and loving so this is ripping him up I am sure. Rich encouraged Greg to take her to dinner tonight and talk in private before the told the kids which she wanted to do tonight but I noticed they were home when Rich and I got back from dinner so don't know if they did that or not but if they did I guess it didn't go well. How does a woman do this especially this time of year just before Christmas to her family? This is a FAMILY that is all about FAMILY so it is going to devastate them all. I know when I went through my divorce many many years ago I had only ME to care for and it was more then I could do so I can not imagine dealing with 4 kids as well. I am just sick. And YES I know they are NOT my kids and it shouldn't directly effect us but it does breaks your heart to see any family fall apart. Greg said she absolutely will not go to any counseling she said she doesn't need it, now that is crazy to me wouldn't you think after 21 years of being together and raising your family you woud do anything to keep it intact? That tells me there simply HAS to be someone else involved in all of this. It is the only thing that makes any sense. Which makes me start wondering about how easily it is to become infactuated with another person and convince yourself that it is so much better then the person you have at home. Which brings back all the memories of my own first marriage falling apart when he decided to have an affair with my best friend. I hate reliving that part of my life, and so seldom go there anymore but this sure brings those thoughts up to ponder yet one more time. I know Marla was just going through this one of her family as well and we all advised her to pray for them and not dwell on it so Marla tell me the same thing! I already know that. Sure doesn't stop the hurting in your heart when you care for both of them. Not to mention what this is going to do to their kids.
And again here I am amazed that it's always here I turn to when life goes upside down!!
Thank you guys you are the best of the best!!