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Dreading this day...saying Good-bye.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

As I sit here writing this...I really want to curl up with a blanket and lay on my couch all day. I've lost several friends over the past few years and it is very hard. Today I will say good-bye to Greg, he and his family have been friends of my husband and I for 30 years. My husband is at work today, so he is occupied. I am at home alone and feel nothing but dread. Greg, like us has two daughters and several young grandchildren. His wife and I share the same name. Tonight will be so hard, reflecting on the good times we shared. Greg was always the "life of the party". One of his famous sayings..."who's the hottest person in the room?" You always knew he meant himself. It was always in good fun. He loved to hear..."it's you Greg!"

Our lives are way too short. A sudden heart-attack and everything changes. This will be a day of many reflections. We have to be the best we can be at all times. We still have time to make changes. It's such an awakening!

I'd love to stuff myself with doughnuts, but I won't. I had my fresh melon and oatmeal and I won't lay on my couch and grieve while watching the Hallmark channel. Yes, I'm so sad for his family. But we can't change what's happened. I will move forward and remember the fun parts of life we shared. I will go now and walk off these frustrations with my treadmill. I will find my glimmer of hope and light and carry it to his family this evening.

Be happy, be healthy and tell the people important to you that you love them.
Love you all, have a blessed day!

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  • BONNIE627
    I recently went through a loss much the same as yours so I can relate.. It is difficult but you are doing a great job in taking care of yourself..things do get better but it will take time. emoticon
    3958 days ago
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    Wish I could reach out and give you a hug. Your blog shows how much he meant to you.
    SO VERY GLAD to read that you will resist the urge to medicate with donuts. (You feel bad enough as it is...)

    Give yourself time and permission to mourn.

    My condolences-

    3959 days ago
    So sorry about the loss of your dear friend. This is a wonderful tribute to him...thank you for sharing it. Know that your wonderful memories will go a long way in helping you as you grieve. Prayers will continue for you and his family as the Lord provides you with comfort, peace and understanding...
    3959 days ago
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    i'm getting teary eyed reading about your wonderful friend Greg. i'm so sorry to hear about the loss to his family and friends. all the hardships we bear in life never prepares us for times like these but gives us the strength and courage to comfort those who need it most. shine your beautiful light sis and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. love you. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3959 days ago
  • SHASTA11
    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Bless his family, and you and yours.

    It's so hard not to eat from sorrow; you're fighting it and that's great. Try getting out more than usual. Go to your favorite park and walk and sit and remember the good times with Greg and his family.

    Be well.

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    3959 days ago
    I'm so sorry to hear this news. Good for you for taking good care of yourself during this time of grief.
    3959 days ago
    a really nice tribute to Greg - stay strong my friend and use the time to reflect and cherish those happy memories - sounds like he was a great guy. Glad that the cake lady didn't turn to donuts - guess you are now the treadmill lady - right! Take care. emoticon Bex
    3959 days ago
  • KAYDE53
    So sorry for your loss!! All of you will be in my thoughts & prayers!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3959 days ago
  • DBELLE39
    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, just cling to the happy memories you shared with Greg & his family.
    3959 days ago
  • SCORPION1352
    I so truly know just what your going through. Remember you have wonderful memories and that is something you can't take away.

    Glad you didn't indulge in the donuts. I know how hard it is lose a friend remember we are here for you.

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    3959 days ago
  • WILLOW49
    Thinking of you today. Keep those wonderful memories alive; they will help you get through today and the days to come.

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    3959 days ago
    I am sorry to hear of your loss of your dear friend. When it happens to me I try to collect the happy memories of them around me and if that doesn't help, spend sometime around young children and puppies/dogs all have the ability to share the joy of life with those around them and remind us there is happiness in the world emoticon
    3959 days ago
    I'm sorry that you lost a dear friend. It's very sad and we must realize that we just don't know when today will be our last. Blessings to all and prayers of comfort and peace for his family.
    3959 days ago
    Big hugs to you,sorry for your loss emoticon emoticon
    3959 days ago
    There aren't enough words to express so I'll just say I'm sending you a Huge Hug.
    3959 days ago
    aww Im so sorry you lost your friend.. I love hearing his famous line, it tells me something about him and he is someone I would have loved too! You know, it is always shocking when life changes in the blink of an eye and Im sorry you have to say good bye today. I am proud of you for understanding that doughnuts dont take away pain (even tho they do taste delicious!). Hope you get through it ok... Jan
    3959 days ago
    emoticon emoticon I know its hard to lose a friend but hang in there and be there for each other.
    3959 days ago
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