Although this may not have been the exact title of the poll, it won't be difficult to find if you would like to take it also. Supportive, or not supportive?? My answer was NO WITHOUT HESITATION. He is supportive in the beginning, when my weight is at it's peak, with that oh so familiar, "what ever you want babe, but you know I love you just the way you are."
This wife has a thought about that comment of his, that should "touch my heart," I think. That thought is Reallllyyyyy, do you now? Truly so??? It's so odd that when I was at 170 lbs. there was no intimacy what so ever~that was nearly two years ago, and we'd not been imtimate for at least a year prior that. Sure thought weight loss might help in that area, but certainly NOT WHY I LOST WEIGHT. That I WAS DOING FOR ME, AND FOR MY HEALTH. He sure missed out~ LOL! As most of my close friends on Spark know, following an accident in June of 2010, my weight began to climb, with lack of mobility and the inability to exercise at all. Dr. ordered and still so to this day.
We are beginning a bit of very light core strengthening in physical therapy, and when I say light, I mean really light. Am getting to do 15 minutes on the treadmill or the new step also twice a week, both also at what I call turtle pace, but hey it's a start~
. This I will not share with my husband, as he will begin his rig-a-ramaro of, "you are just fine the way you are babe." This so isn't about weight loss right now, it's about being able to walk without pain in my neck and spine. It's about getting back to as normal as "normal" will be for me, with spinal cord trauma, as well as spinal injuries, that will be present for the rest of my life.
Stars oh mighty he doesn't even live here any longer! Lives and works 300-400 miles from home, only visiting long enough to take for trips to neurologist out of state, and there's still no intimacy what so ever. Am I whining about that? Maybe. Possibly feeling unworthy more than anything, yet on the flip side, it sure saves on bedding washing~ LOL
Tis an interesting cycle though, as weight starts coming off, and I'm feeling better and better about myself, his insecurities are on the rise....with regular text messages wondering if my boyfriend has been by yet, or if he might be interupting something. Just shaking my head. I've been known not to reply to those rediculous notes, and without delay 10 minutes later the "duplicate" message arrives, again to be ignored. That is when the cell phone rings. Insecure MUCH! He doesn't want me passionately, but sure as heck would lose his mind if another man did!
Yes that was an interesting poll. Certainly brought much to the surface that has been blanketed in my subconscious. His gaging actions when my daughter and I are home making our steamed/grilled oven top veggies is a bit over the top. "What ever you want babe." Ummmm-hummmm, as long as the house is aired out just right, and his text messages are answered quick~if "boyfriend" is mentioned in them. Isn't the most insecure one, the one who is usually actually guilty themselves (in a marriage)??? Just a thought. Wondering, truly so what anybody and everybody else thinks. It's a ho-hum thought in the middle of the night. Not something that is nagging or eating at the core of my soul. Just a thought, after taking a very interesting poll.
Much Love To Alllllll~