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Horrible Evening

Sunday, April 22, 2012

We went to visit my parents tonight. Eric and Quinn were sweeping out the garage and Dad wanted to watch and supervise. Dad fell and hit his head against 100 yr old metal trunk. We took Dad to the emergency room where he needed 6 stitches above his eyebrow.

Dad was drunk and slurring his words. The ER doctor could smell it on him. The neighbors are scared of his driving. He recently was visited by the sheriff as someone driving behind him complained about his driving. I'm afraid he'll hurt himself or another person. We asked Dad for his keys, but he refused. So, Eric disconnected the battery to his van. Dad called the police. I was relieved when the sheriff showed up. The filed a report and will have someone investigate to see if he is a fit driver. I will call his doctor on Monday, and let her know what happened.

I had to tell my Mom not to let her keys out of her sight. Unfortunately, I am afraid my Dad will take the battery out of her car or will just buy a new one. My Dad needs to get treatment but refuses to even admit he has a problem. He needs to be in a nursing home, where he can be safe.
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    My heart goes out to you, and your Family. You are doing the right thing, taking control of a very difficult situation, and supporting your Mom, who must be feeling very distraught at the moment.
    Your Sparkfriends are all here, wishing well for you, and ready to support you when you need it.
    Be strong, I know it can be very distessing when you realise the roles have now reversed, that you now need to step up and take control when one or both parents are unable to cope alone.
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    Comment edited on: 4/23/2012 8:33:09 PM

    I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's so hard when a child has to go into the parent role for one of their parents.

    It was such a blessing for us when my alcholic dad lost his truck for failure to provide insurance on it. We were all so glad he wouldn't be on the road anymore, so I know how you feel.

    Hopefully the police will decide your dad isn't a fit driver and you won't have to keep playing the 'bad guy'.

    My thoughts are with you, hun.
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  • LGAR519
    So sorry you have to go through all this. Glad you love your Dad enough to try to help him!! HUGS!!
    3390 days ago
    I'm glad he has someone like you guys to keep an eye on him and hopefully you'll get the backup on his driving with this last call. I'm sorry you are having to go through this.
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  • BELLE0308
    My thoughts are with you. This is VERY tough. Even if they are able to pull his license, I would imagine it would be a difficult time for you.

    I went through something similar with my Grandfather when he had Parkinson's so bad it was affecting his driving. He agreed to give up his license and his doctor put in a medical request to have it revoked but he STILL got in the car one day and drove and ended up in another state!

    My Grandmother was a similar story only hers was from alzheimer's. We disabled her car and she had a mechanic fix it. During the time we were waiting to get guardianship of her, she fell and hurt herself a few times. We worried constantly about her getting in her car and hurting someone else or herself or getting lost.

    I feel very badly for you and your family. Such a really hard thing to handle but you are doing the right thing to be concerned and to make an attempt to do something. Not everyone feels the weight of that responsibility. You would be surprised how many people just ignore a situation like this because of the difficulty.

    Thank you!
    3390 days ago
    I am sorry that you are going through such rough stuff with your dad. I am glad that you wrote about it. Things have been difficult since my dad was diagnosed with dementia. He drives and gets around but what about the day when one of us has to take away his keys or restrict him?

    I hope you can relax this evening.
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    oh how awful for you. and not to mention, painful to witness.

    You have all done the right thing because I am sure you would never forgive yourself if you did nothing and your dad hurt or killed someone else as well as himself. I hope your mom is a strong woman and hangs on to her keys, and I pray your dad doesnt even think about other batteries... I am glad that he was not hurt more than he was.

    Hugs to you, for your bravery to do something about it, for having to go through this and most of all, just because I think you need one.
    3391 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    I agree that it is by far a good thing that someone will be checking to see if you dad is fit for driving. You do knowtho that even if they take his license away, he may still continue to drive if he can get by doing so. It is a very difficult situation for your entire family, and a tough one to have to enforce he doesn't drive if he is found ubfit to drive. Thank goodness that up till now he hasn't injured anyone with driving drunk. Hopr it all works out and you all can have peace of mind over the situation.
    3391 days ago
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