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Good-bye Rick, I'll miss you

Wednesday, March 05, 2014

On Monday, March 3rd, my ex husband passed away. We'd been divorced for almost 20 years. But we were always on friendly terms.
We were a united front for our kids. We went Christmas & birthday shopping together and a couple times he brought me with on vacations, with the kids. We attended all functions for the kids together & would sit together. Our relationship, after our divorce was like good friends, and I guess we were.

He had always been fairly healthy, except for the occasional cold. Until the summer of 2011, when he was diagnosed with diabetes. He got that under control, but then had a shoulder problem, that needed surgery in mid 2012. We all went out for our sons birthday, in mid Dec. 2012. He was telling us how he was having his tonsils out the following week. I was concerned because that's not an easy surgery for an adult. Three days later that surgery was cancelled & he was diagnosed with leukemia and immediately hospitalized.

He spent the next 8 months hospitalized. I'm not sure how he was able to do it, I think I might have gone crazy, being hospitalized for so long. He had a bone marrow transplant and he seemed to be going into remission. He was released in Aug. 2013 and was very weak. But he went on a few trips, during the next 4 months. His bucket list.

But in Nov. 2013 he was hospitalized with cirrhosis of he liver. He kept deteriorating and the kids and I were all distressed. I still was upbeat & hopeful that he would recover. Then his kidneys started failing.

On Monday night, he passed away. He had his best friends and our oldest daughter by his side.

The kids are a wreck over losing their father. Their still reeling from Michael's death in 2011. Mike was their bonus brother. (my boyfriends son)

Goodbye Rick, you were a good guy. A good friend and of course, a great father. We're broken hearted. You'll be missed by so many. But I am glad that your pain & suffering is over. Say hi to Mike for us.
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  • BEAUTY_WITHIN
    I'm so sorry for your loss
    2603 days ago
  • BOPPY_
    Thanks for sharing.
    2622 days ago
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    Awww. It is so sad to lose our loved ones. I can sympathize with how you and your kids feel. You really feel lost after losing a parent. RIP Rick. It sounds like he was a good man and a good father. RIP Mike too. Praying that you all find peace. But I know how hard that is too.

    I lost my daddy when I was 12, and I've missed him every day since. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him. He was only 44. I am now 62, and I still cry when I think of his death. We never forget completely. The pain I always feel from such a senseless death. He was overdosed in a hospital 5 hours after arriving there in 1963. So I do know what your kids are feeling. I still am reeling too. After I grew up, I became an RN to protect my friends and family if they were ever in a hospital or....
    There's a book, called "The Wound" of when a father dies. It's a very good book.

    I'll be praying for your family in the days ahead.
    2660 days ago
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