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Thursday, October 06, 2016

Day #236 here in Spark Villa.

Ask for help when you need it is next the the last thing on a pin from pinterest entitled A Therapist's Prescription for Better Mental Health.

I grew up in a family where you don't talk about your problems, you don't ask for help, etc outside of your family. Basically you were expected to do what you were told to do and not ask for help with in the family also. For me this way of thinking has done me more harm then good since I stepped into the 'real world'. When I went off to college and even to my 1st job, people around me offered to help so it got easier to ask for help in return. Since moving back here, I've noticed people don't offer and I have developed this attitude if I can't do it myself, it doesn't need to be done. I've had negative remarks about me being too darn independent from people in my childhood church as if that is a sin to be independent. When I was baptist, when I walked into the changing room, 2 women were waiting for me to help me get dressed, I almost cried. My son has said and felt that same feeling from the people there. They are loving and caring. It is hard for me to ask for help but when you receive help in a loving way, it becomes easier the next time to ask for help.

I really want to focus on self-care. I found this pin entitled 50 ways to practice self care #17 is give yourself a manicure. I've never worn nail polish in my life. Neither did my mom. I really have had no desire to.

When I pinned the pin entitled 'things to do when you're down'. I thought would help me get started with self-care so I started putting it as my status. LOL-under the next column entitled social: call a friend-I realized I need healthier friends to help bring my up; Make a gift for someone-that use to cheer me up and I loved doing it until I moved here and people are not thankful for the home made things; write a thank-you card-only older people even enjoy that any more; write a letter or a note-no one even does that anymore; Meet a friend for lunch-you need healthy friends to be uplifted; visit a nursing home-none in my area.

I am finding self care and joy in my challenges:

#1-Home.Work.Play Challenge: Talked about snack bars which I do not do

#2-Declutter my home in a year found on pinterest. Today's mission is-designate a spot for remote controls-done!

#3-Jessica Smith's 28 day Fall back into Fitness Challenge: Today is #25. It is 1 mile express ab walk and 10 minutes ab core conditioning circuit. Both were new to me. It is hard to believe I am almost at day #28!

77 days until my son's winter break. Yesterday I worked on my paternal grandfather's side. I plugged in his parent's and that was enough to drive me crazy. I went to visit my aunt. She was married to my dad's brother. She told me that would be enough to make her scream also! I came back and started again when my computer crashed. I decided it was time to shut off the sights and do something else! My Fall Fun today was going to be going to my nephew's football game. For some reason my brother tells me when my niece is doing things but never my nephew. Well there isn't enough 7th graders out for football in my town so there is no 7th grade football game today! Son is coming home tomorrow so I need to clean off my sofa, wash dishes, clean off the table, and make lazy cake cookies today! Just got asked if 2 wonderful women from my church can come visit also! When they came, they ask if there is anything I need. As I shared above, it is hard for my to ask for help but I am learning! So tomorrow will be a wonderful day!

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    Asking for and/or accepting help is hard for me too, I've never been totally independent but I always tried to do whatever I could on my own... and if I couldn't, then sometimes I just wouldn't do it. I felt paralyzed. Now I'm learning that it's okay to need and accept help. I'm glad you have met such wonderful people at your church, it sounds like they are really supportive and care about others, which is so important and helpful!
    1683 days ago
    Might I suggest that you write a letter that includes a "thank you" to yourself. Tell yourself how much you have grown since you discovered Spark and all the healthy friends that you have made here. While we can't meet you for lunch, we are here for you in spirit and emotionally.

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    1684 days ago
    I found the Baptists to be very friendly
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