Sweating for the Right Reasons
Friday, January 05, 2018
A few weeks ago my then boyfriend and I decided that after ten years we were ready to get married and thusly got engaged. A lot of our family members asked why we didn’t do so earlier, besides the fact that we started dating at 17 years old we wanted to make sure that we weren’t jumping into a codependent life with one another before we both had good jobs with benefits. If anything were to happen to one of us or if one of were to lose our job we wanted to make sure that we would still be able to support each other. That might not be everyone’s path, but it’s where we felt comfortable. We’re so incredibly fortunate to be where we are right now.
Of course with wedding bells imminent one of the first sober thoughts after the high of the brand new engagement period wore off was getting into shape. I immediately started working out very diligently; I would take my engagement ring off and put it on the windowsill next to our elliptical so that I wouldn’t bend the band while clutching the handles on the machine. But it was also there because every time I felt tired or thought, “maybe ten minutes is really enough today” I would look over at the ring and get a new burst of energy and motivation.
While I certainly want to look good on the outside on my wedding day, that’s not really where the motivation is coming from when I look at that ring. My boyf- I mean fiancé! and I put a lot of thought into making sure we were ready and able to support one another before even getting engaged. Now I’m going to be his wife and I want to hold that position for a very long time. I want to be healthy. I don’t want to be a burden on him for anything that is within my power to prevent. So, sure, I’m sweating for the wedding, but I’m also sweating for my marriage and my well being.