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If you can't yet love yourself...

Sunday, November 03, 2019

....then at the very least try to stop hating yourself.
We all know the importance of self-love but sometimes it seems impossible. That is where I am right now so I decided to just work on not being mean to myself. I would like to stop doing things that cause me pain and sickness and subsequent depression. Perfection is the enemy of this process of course. I almost started a Sparkteam that could be used as a check in for those of us who struggle with "all or nothing" type thinking and my thought was that it could be a place to report where maybe one or two things that didn't go as planned was countered with some healthy action anyway....extra slice of pizza/still did my workout, had ice cream/chose extra water anyway, gained weight this week but still painted my nails.. etc.... I just can't right now and I'm not moderator material but maybe I'll put that on my feed for myself.
I overate tonight but decided to log on before bed and make Spark part of my day every day , no matter what.

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    I love the idea of sharing "maybe one or two things that didn't go as planned was countered with some healthy action."

    This is a healthier way to approach life, anyway. Sometimes we are stuck without options. Sometimes we are just in a bad place mentally.

    When feeling badly about things, I find that working hard on something lets me find an outlet and there is a plus at the end of the day (cleaner house, project furthered, quilt finished). I try to focus on what I did do. I know someone who had terrible insomnia. Rather than lie down worrying and worrying about not sleeping, she got up and quilted. When tired, she slept. But at least it took her mind off things and she accomplished something.

    Of course, that is hard because the way brains work in depression is to work against the positive.

    cDougall Plan Coleader
    629 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/6/2019 9:15:41 AM
    Yes. We are all worthy of self-love!

    Loving, gentle, kindness ... extended to ourselves ... over and over and over ... because we are worth it, regardless of our missteps. Missteps do not render us unworthy of love.

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    Good for you for making Spark a part of your everyday life. And even better good for you that you understand what's gnawing away at your motivation! It took me awhile to stop all my negative self-talk, but just noticing it when it happened was a huge step for me. So, give yourself a great big warm congratulatory hug for taking that huge step! You've seen your enemy up close and personal. Now you can engage in effective combat. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    Thanks for sharing
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