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Eating for lonely

Friday, November 06, 2020

I pride myself on having a upbeat attitude and loving manner. In private I cry for loneliness and go home and eat way too much. My husband and I do not even eat together. I watch TV in the living room and he goes to the bedroom with his plate and watches his TV. I miss those days of everyone eating dinner around the table and sharing stories. We have to social distance at work so I don't even get that socialization for meals. I know this is a problem for alot of people. How do you deal with it?
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  • MARYBETH4884
    Ask him to eat with you. Turn off the TV and eat and chat for an hour. He just might be missing it too.
    170 days ago
    Maybe ask for 10 min of sitting on the couch together chatting, quality time, apart from meals if that is a hot button issue.
    I'm sorry you are going through this. Covid time has been hard for many couples.
    170 days ago
    I agree it is dying out


    170 days ago
    I would definitely tell him how you feel. This is not right and maybe you can ask him why he is alienating you? ... My husband and I stopped eating at the dining room table ages ago...... Grab our plates and eat in the living room. But we talk to each other And always know what's going on with each other. We don't spend all our time in front of the television either but get away and take walks together, Or a drive in the country. You have nothing to lose by holding back.
    170 days ago
  • LINDA!
    We have always eaten at the kitchen table. I also did this as I grew up. So sorry this is going on with you.
    170 days ago
    I grew up with family dinners and still do them when I have guests. I live alone now so I eat by myself but I try not to watch tv while I eat. Maybe set the table, make it look pretty, turn off the tv, and ask your hubby to come out for dinner two nights per week? Just to get him used to the idea. And then start to talk. I think you will both feel better...
    179 days ago
    That would be hard to take! Being lonely like that @ home is the pits!

    HUGS and hope you and DH can reach a compromise. It's difficult.
    180 days ago
    You have to be honest with yourself and others. We only get one shot at this life, make the most of it while you still have the chance. Sometimes we must change if we are to be happy and live a fulfilling life! Change is hard and sometimes painful but in the end it is well worth the pain to live a joyful, happy, and grateful life!
    181 days ago
    Meals are about the only time families can be together and I would also miss the communication and feel lonely without it. Tell him how you feel!
    181 days ago
  • LIS193
    181 days ago
    Well my hubby will usually eat in the same room with me, however, as soon as he is done eating. Yes, off he goes to our bedroom to watch TV and here I sit in the living room by myself. I am sitting by myself right now, his excuse is he does not want to watch what I am watching.. But, it kind of works both ways... oh well....
    181 days ago
    Get him away from home (and tv) as much as you can.
    181 days ago
    I live with my husband who has dementia...it seems everyday I lose him a little more of him each day...I feel lonely and sad..I eat alone, sleep alone, and talk very little to anyone throughout my day..I miss the days when we had family dinners together...life changes, circumstances change..it is difficult I know. I agree with the others, tell him how you feel...perhaps you can come to some comprises.
    181 days ago
    So very sorry that you are going thru this lonely time & your hubby not eating dinner with you. It may be a talk you need to have with him to encourage eating dinner together. Many prayers for you.
    181 days ago
    I hear you. Being lonely at home is the worst.
    181 days ago
    I grew up eating dinner together every night, but my boyfriend often doesn't want to... We had a talk about it and now that he knows how I feel he's making an effort to eat with me at the table!
    182 days ago
  • VHAYES04
    Talk to him and tell him how you feel; start eating supper together and watch tv together. Compromise on the shows.
    182 days ago
  • TZAPP22
    So sorry. Maybe start with a special dinner night where there is no tv and you just eat and talk.. then try to increase it... Good luck!
    182 days ago
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